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Is It Love or Are You Just Filling a Void? Mastering Aloneness and Creating a Real Relationship

By |2017-12-14T15:22:13-06:00April 18th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I experienced a dating drought at the beginning of this year. My phone stopped ringing, my Match.com inbox dried up and I felt untethered. I felt real loneliness for the first time since my ex-husband moved out two years ago. It was strange. My whole being seemed to wither. I contributed meagerly to conversations. Writing ideas were few and [...]

How to Reconnect: Maintaining Sexual Interest, Engagement and Identity in Your Relationship

By |2015-10-20T13:34:56-05:00April 11th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Notes from the dating world: Over sushi, we talked about couples who spend the majority of their time together —working, playing, family events – and couples who do their own thing and then come together for twenty minutes to an hour at the end of the day. He said he preferred to spend the majority of his time [...]

The Daydreamy Introvert's Approach to Love

By |2015-09-22T16:06:12-05:00April 4th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

For you! A guest post from sensitive, sensual and expressive introvert writer, Michaela Chung of IntrovertSpring.com. Michaela is a kindred spirit. I trust you will see yourselves in her words. I know I do. The Daydreamy Introvert's Approach to Love While others let their fantasies die with childhood, the daydreamy introvert keeps them very much alive. [...]

Sensuality, Sex, Solitude and Sensitivity: An Introvert’s Recipe for Love and Pleasure

By |2015-10-20T10:00:57-05:00March 21st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

He slips his arms around my waist and nuzzles my neck from behind. The timber of his voice and  scratchiness of his unshaven face send a sensation cascading through my body. My knees go weak as I sauté at the stove. Chris Isaak sings on the radio, his hauntingly playful voice mingling with the fragrance of [...]

Building Beautiful Introvert / Extrovert Relationships

By |2019-12-07T13:21:06-06:00March 7th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I want there to be a place in the world where people can engage in one another’s differences in a way that is redemptive, full of hope and possibility. Not this 'In order to love you, I must make you something else'. That’s what domination is all about, that in order to be close to you, [...]

Masculine, Feminine, Dominance and the Love Dance

By |2015-09-22T16:06:13-05:00February 28th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

I am sensitive to dominance. Recently, I was on a date at a posh local restaurant/bar. My quick-witted companion effortlessly chatted up the waiter while simultaneously making me laugh. His deep voice and confident demeanor made it easy for me to sit back and let him lead. Half-way through the night I noticed I wasn't talking [...]

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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
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