Stories for and about those who recharge in solitude and feel life deeply.

When Introverts Get Loud: Where Are You Using Your Voice?

By |2015-09-22T16:06:05-05:00September 26th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

via Rebelle Society Have you ever made a remark within a group and basically been ignored and then moments later someone else says the same thing, only louder, and gets a round of cheers and a heap of credit? Isn't that frustrating? When this happens to me I kick myself for not believing in my idea [...]

Ever Get Tired of Validating Your Introversion?

By |2015-09-22T16:06:06-05:00September 19th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

My 14-year-old son and 10-year-old daughter join me in my home office. Their respective buses have just dropped them off after school and now they are sitting in the worn comfy chair and lounging on the scrumptious shag carpet in the private room where I write. With trepidation and excitement I tell Bryce that I am [...]

Masquerading As Everyone Else’s Expectations: Finding Your True Identity As An Introverted Idealist

By |2016-01-20T14:02:10-06:00September 12th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Seven years ago, I found myself sitting in the waiting area of the music school my son attended for guitar lessons. The school's owner had come out and greeted me with a kind gentle voice and then left. Within the quiet following his departure, I listened to musical notes drifting in from nearby classrooms. I smelled candles burning, their fragrance mixing [...]

Introvert Relationships and Sensation Seeking: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate Update

By |2015-09-22T16:06:06-05:00September 5th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , |

In July I wrote a post titled, Introvert Stops Searching for 'The One' and Gets a Life: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate. In it, I described my intention to stop dating for three months and focus on experiencing life's riches on my own. I planned to savor my children's company, spend meaningful time with friends, do nourishing [...]

Introverts, Intimacy, and Indescribable Equilibrium

By |2015-09-22T16:06:06-05:00August 29th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: |

Surfing vulnerability I loved this post for its mention of the indescribable equilibrium introverts feel when alone and the beautifully high 'Jesus-like' expectations we have for our romantic interests. Melene, of Sensitive New World, talks about intimacy, introverts, vulnerability and Netflix. I know you'll love it as much as I did.Oh, and she brings up my [...]

Sensitive and Introverted Does Not Mean Irrational and Weak: Valuing the Input of the Compassionate and Contemplative

By |2017-12-01T15:55:32-06:00August 22nd, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

We are locking horns again over the way he treats others. His tone demands I argue with him in succinct direct points, show the logic in my beliefs. If I don't or can't, he is superior. But I've been on the ropes for too long. I've spent too much time with the group lately, so many people needing me. I'm strung [...]

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During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un… Read more
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THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
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Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
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