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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
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THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
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What's Wonderful? Dilly-dallying and Meandering

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:15+00:00 February 15th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

No dilly-dallying.  No meandering.  Wasting time is a sin.  We don't allow ourselves to transition slowly from one event to the next anymore.  We move swiftly and efficiently from point A to point B. Do Introverts and Extroverts Transition Differently? We learn to keep pace with the fastest movers in our community but I don't believe [...]

Alone and In Love: To Couple or Not?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:15+00:00 February 10th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Fall in love when you're ready not when you're lonely. ~ From Marc and Angel Hack Life What helped me accept the end of my marriage? Knowing I would be OK by myself.  In fact, I would be better off alone than in the relationship. I reached the point where I could cut away the safety [...]

What’s Wonderful? Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

By | 2015-10-21T12:50:32+00:00 February 3rd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Our culture made  a virtue of living only as extroverts.  We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for center.  So we lost our center and have to find it again. ~ Anais Nin Could we have prevented the Wall Street crash of 2008? How do introverts and extroverts work together in love? How can introverts act [...]

When Parenting Overwhelms:Tough Days as an Introverted Parent

By | 2015-10-23T20:27:29+00:00 January 27th, 2012|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Most of my introvert friends are childless or have one child.  They seemed to have instinctively known their child-rearing capabilities and stopped while they were ahead.  I on the other hand barreled through every red flag that warned me.  I overlooked the need for long spans of time to myself.  I didn't notice how much I [...]

What's Wonderful? Henry and June

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:16+00:00 January 25th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , |

Maybe I have a thing for erotica. Maybe I love artsy-fartsy films about writers in Paris (I loved Woody Allen's Midnight in Paris too). Maybe it's because I watched  the entire movie in peace without interruptions (even rewinding and replaying dialogue I didn't catch the first time). Whatever the reason, I found Henry and June (1990) to be wonderful. [...]

Let's Not Reduce Everything to Numbers: An Antidote to the Unsatisfying Way We Account for Our Existence

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:16+00:00 January 20th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Never worry about numbers.  Help one person at a time, and always start with the person nearest you. ~ Mother Teresa One of the hardest things about divorce is seeing everything reduced to numbers.  Credit cards, bank accounts and insurance policies are quantifiable representations of an existence thrown in a pile, divvied up or shut down. [...]

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