When was the first time you made love? The last time? I was in my 40s before I really made love. What took me so long? Why didn't I experience that heavenly closeness and soulmate sanctity before my fourth decade? Because making love involves emotional AND physical intimacy. I never truly felt safe or in love [...]
I learned early that blushing, slow responses and tentative answers would always be out-shined and outgunned by the gregarious and confident. I learned to compensate for my lack of brashness by pleasing others and graciously cooperating. As a teen, I pretended to not be disappointed when the sleepover for two became a slumber party for six. I [...]
I swung futilely and vulnerably at the serves my then lover gunned at me from the other side of the net. We had walked to the local courts to play tennis. I had taken a few lessons years before and played casually at best. He grew up playing and had been on a high school team. He [...]
Do you need a deep emotional or mental connection in order to be sexually attracted to someone? If so, you may be a demisexual. New word for you? Me too, until I read, Are You a Demisexual? on Lonerwolf's website. I encourage you to check out Lonerwolf. The writing is evocative and validating for loners, introverts, introspectives [...]
I'm ashamed I have to white-knuckle it through summer. Summer is supposed to be carefree and super sunny smiley, right? As I've mentioned before, socializing and stimulation are big energy expenders for introverts. We may love the company and excitement of a gathering or activity but afterward solitude will be sought in order to recharge. When [...]
Summer is here. School is out. Relationships fill my heart and time. I can't promise new and densely enriching posts every week. I'll be busy chasing kids and frogs and sprinkler haze. Living wide-eyed and spontaneously. I doubt I'll be able to stay away from writing entirely but if the week slips away from me in [...]
