The Introvert’s Love Affair with Solitude: Will It Always Be Taboo?

By |2015-10-19T11:31:46-05:00February 15th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago.  I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband.  A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]

Giving Up Season: When Overwhelming Obligations Plague Your Space to Live

By |2017-03-30T17:08:59-05:00January 25th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Run through midnight dunes with sparklers or lie down on the dark shore and let life wash over you? Here it is again, giving up season. No, I'm not talking about Lent.  I'm talking about one of those phases in which we feel defeated by the overwhelming requirements of life. It's when you find yourself constantly [...]

Blossom or Hibernate? In Love and Work, When Is It Right To Start Anew?

By |2016-04-23T08:08:06-05:00March 23rd, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Is it OK to blossom now?  A question I ask myself every day and a question I imagine the trees and flowers are asking themselves now. March in Minnesota is usually snow-covered and grey-ish.  But this year June temperatures showed up in bright green shorts and flip flops while our coat closets were still sporting black [...]

A Slightly Desperate Plea For Solitude and a Room of One's Own

By |2015-09-22T16:07:13-05:00March 14th, 2012|Categories: Guest Posts|Tags: , , , , |

Space2live is published on elephant journal again!  Yippee!!  Elephant journal's mindful living focus aligns perfectly with Space2live's belief in slowing down and paying attention for personal evolution. A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction.                                                                        ~ Virginia Woolf It would be so lovely if you would read, [...]

Visions and Missions and Goals, Oh My! or What the Heck is Space2live About??

By |2015-09-22T16:07:50-05:00April 15th, 2011|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Pay attention.  Reflect.  Evolve. Space2live is about self-fulfillment. Self-actualization. Dragging your weary self out of the squirrely world of fast, more and do and finding space to slow down, with less and BE. Be who you are and not what you should be. PAY ATTENTION. Discover your essence and notice that of others. Discover your spirit by [...]

Socializing and Solitude: An Introvert Manages Both

By |2017-08-20T14:51:54-05:00March 25th, 2011|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

But if it is the dreamy idleness that children have, an idleness when you walk alone for a long, long time, or take a long, dreamy time at dressing, or lie in bed at night and thoughts come and go, or dig in a garden, or drive a car for many hours alone …With all my [...]

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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
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