In Love With Possibilities, Beholden to Reality

By |2015-09-22T16:07:01-05:00March 15th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I am an introverted Pisces dreamer big-picture kind of woman. I could while away hours daydreaming about traveling in foreign lands, meeting a beguiling stranger on a midnight train, writing a bestseller and championing lost souls. I am most content when I am available to possibilities. Possibilities in Love Deeply Single: A state of perceiving the [...]

Introvert Relationships, Self-Actualization and Sensuality: Best of Space2live 2012

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00December 28th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

As the core values of space2live crystallize, I discover myself. In 2011's Best Of post, I stated my intention to be more open in my 2012 writing. I succeeded.  I let my sensuality slip out from behind the ornate dressing screen.  I revealed my divorce story, despair and all. I admitted my weaknesses and shortfalls when [...]

Becoming Real: What Happens When You've Been Through Some Sh*t

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00December 21st, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

English: pg 18 and 19 of The Velveteen Rabbit. (Photo credit: Wikipedia) It doesn't happen all at once, said the Skin Horse. You become. It takes a long time. ...Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in [...]

Chasing Love

By |2015-09-22T16:07:07-05:00October 5th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Once again I find myself without a partner.  I feel an ache when my phone chimes and it’s not a sweet text from my sweetheart.  It’s a text saying my Verizon bill is available for review.  Thud goes hope, and yet for now, I choose to relax and focus on my kids and writing.  Why am [...]

The Catastrophe of Success: Remove the Struggle, Lose Your Way of Being

By |2018-10-28T13:08:06-05:00September 14th, 2012|Categories: Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , |

I hate to admit it, but one reason my marriage failed was because life was too good. Success was overwhelming and numbing. We had it all —money, big home, healthy kids, personal trainers — and I missed the simplicity of my childhood.  I longed for  meaningful experiences with family, less complexity and the sincere words of [...]

Steven Tyler and an Introvert: Expanding Through Music, Stillness and the Inner Garden

By |2015-09-22T16:07:09-05:00August 10th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Steven Tyler Steven Tyler (lead singer of rock band Aerosmith and former American Idol judge) admits to blowing $20 million on drugs. He’s seen the highest of creative highs and the lowest of strung-out lows. I (Brenda) have relatively little experience with drugs. Sure, I experimented in college; two inept attempts at smoking pot. [...]

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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
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decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
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Evan H.
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i… Read more
Niko
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would… Read more

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Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring… Read more
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THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
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