Stories for and about those who recharge in solitude and feel life deeply.

Becoming Real: What Happens When You've Been Through Some Sh*t

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00December 21st, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

English: pg 18 and 19 of The Velveteen Rabbit. (Photo credit: Wikipedia) It doesn't happen all at once, said the Skin Horse. You become. It takes a long time. ...Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in [...]

Go Lightly Even If You Feel Deeply

By |2015-10-21T14:35:00-05:00December 14th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Lightly Child, Lightly It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them...So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to [...]

I'm Sick of Myself and Other Things I Never Thought I'd Say

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00November 30th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

I once heard Brad Pitt say, Having children takes the focus off yourself, which I'm really grateful for. I'm so tired of thinking about myself. I'm sick of myself.  At the time, I was just entering the mystical realms of conscious self-reflection and writing.  I thought, How could anyone be sick of themselves? There is so much [...]

Listening to Butterflies:Using Fear to Move Forward

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00November 23rd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

    A reverie of childhood: I lie in the double bed where I suspect Grandma sleeps when I am not visiting.  The nubby white bedspread is turned down and rests like a lightweight dog on my feet.  I’ve read a chapter or two in my Judy Blume book and turned out the goose necked lamp. [...]

Sensuality in the Suburbs:Redefining the Norm

By |2015-09-22T16:07:06-05:00November 16th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

I know I'm not supposed to talk about it but sex and sensuality are on the tip of my tongue and very often heating up my thoughts. What can I say? My whole being is alive, including my body and its desires.  I'm newly divorced and newly carefree.  I feel like a twenty-something with the wisdom [...]

I’d Rather Not Compete With You:For Introverts or Anyone Who Prefers Excellence Over Dominance

By |2015-10-20T17:52:46-05:00October 26th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Not a FIGHTER. Be my friend, lover or family member but please don’t be my competitor.  I will run from you if I feel you are in any way interested in one-upping me.  This is the ultimate turn off for me.  I will not relax in your presence.  I understand that competition is invigorating [...]

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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would… Read more

Mom M
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t… Read more
Evan H.
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
Sharon
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need … Read more
D.R.
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring… Read more
J.K.
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i… Read more
Niko

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