For Women, Busy Means More Satisfaction

By |2020-08-28T13:27:51-05:00August 28th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

  According to Dr. Joan Borysenko, cofounder of the Mind/Body Clinic, Harvard Medical School, women are happiest when the opportunities for self-in relation are the greatest. One of the main pleasures of busy working women, not surprisingly, is the relatively large number of relationships that can develop in the work setting, as opposed to the relatively [...]

The Midlife Triad

By |2020-07-29T13:30:21-05:00July 31st, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  ...the most important things in life were love, peace of mind, and service to others, a triad that I believe characterizes the wisdom of the middle-aged woman, and which I call the midlife values triad. — Joan Borysenko Ph.D In Dr. Borysenko's book, A Woman's Book of Life: The Biology, Psychology and Spirituality of the [...]

Holding Two Opposing Views: Intelligent and Stressful?

By |2020-07-15T14:13:54-05:00July 17th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

  The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function. — F. Scott Fitzgerald Cognitive Dissonance: Mental stress or discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same [...]

Were You Raised to Take Initiative or to Feel Guilt?

By |2020-07-10T09:18:26-05:00July 10th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Erik Erikson German American psychologist, Erik Erikson, said that between the ages of two and five children go through a developmental crisis that he called initiative versus guilt. If parents consistently encourage a little boy or girl to explore new areas, talk with strangers and solve problems, the children are likely to develop initiative. Parents [...]

Did Your Family Teach You How to Stay Busy and Struggle?

By |2020-06-19T11:11:46-05:00June 19th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

  We grow up in households that are busy or struggling, and somehow not quite nurturing enough. From this we learn everything about how to stay busy and struggle, but little about how to nurture ourselves.    — Dr. Jonice Webb, 4 Ways You May be Keeping Yourself Running on Empty Dr. Webb's quote resonated with [...]

Shortcuts Rob Us of Our Potential

By |2020-05-14T09:27:30-05:00May 15th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Shortcuts rob us of completion and mental toughness. I heard former Navy SEAL, Mark Divine, say that. I agree. It goes along with the idea of making our bed every day. My son tells me it does not make sense to make his bed because he is just going to get into it and mess it [...]

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