Speak an Introvert’s Love Language and Get More Action

By |2015-11-07T06:11:17-06:00July 3rd, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

A marriage counselor once asked my former husband and me what part we each played at the end of the Thanksgiving meal. Did we pop up and start clearing dishes or did we remain seated, rooted in conversation with other diners? I am a stay seated kind of gal. When people start buzzing around me clearing and [...]

Introvert Relationships and Sensation Seeking: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate Update

By |2015-09-22T16:06:06-05:00September 5th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , |

In July I wrote a post titled, Introvert Stops Searching for 'The One' and Gets a Life: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate. In it, I described my intention to stop dating for three months and focus on experiencing life's riches on my own. I planned to savor my children's company, spend meaningful time with friends, do nourishing [...]

Link to Introverts and Intimacy Interview with Introvert Spring

By |2018-09-11T16:17:01-05:00August 10th, 2014|Categories: Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Podcast, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , |

If you want to hear a delightful discussion about dating and mating as an introvert, then please tune in to listen to my interview with Michaela of IntrovertSpring.com. We'll dish about introvert relationships and intimacy (emotional and physical).   Please click Sensual interview to listen on IntrovertSpring.com. Here's the replay in case you missed it — http://ds1.downloadtech.net/cn1086/audio/75149993211940-001.mp3 [...]

I Belong Deeply to Myself But I'll Let You In: The Ebb and Flow of Introvert Intimacy

By |2015-09-22T16:06:57-05:00August 2nd, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude. — Warsan Shire The delicious experiencing of our thoughts is so nourishing it is hard to leave that space.  Lovers may entice, cajole, and whimper but still we are drawn to the space of solitude.  The space where we are content and [...]

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