Stories for and about those who recharge in solitude and feel life deeply.

Why I’m Not Losing It This Holiday Season: How One Introvert Beat Christmas Burnout

By |2015-12-21T15:06:43-06:00December 20th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

This is the time of year when I usually white knuckle it through jam packed days filled with holiday preparations and obligations. This is when I usually sleep erratically and smile minimally. This time of year is a push for me. It often feels like have to instead of want to, which makes me sad. It's [...]

Intuition, Feeling, Men, Myers – Briggs and Snowblowers

By |2016-02-26T15:21:42-06:00December 13th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

My mind is buzzing (in the bad way) about my snowblower situation. The weather clock shows snow for this weekend. The snowblower (or thrower depending on where you are from) I ordered from Sears is in. I simply have to pick it up, prepare it to work and clear my driveway. Rent - a - man? The thought and [...]

Nurturing and Caretaking in a Relationship: Sword and Shield or Energy Drain for Introverts?

By |2015-10-28T15:50:32-05:00December 6th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Redford and Streep. Out of Africa. I wasn't sure Lorraine and others like her — ones who were so despairing of marriage, ones who were so sure their expectations could never be met — understood that it was these small moments of caretaking that meant the most, that forged the real relationship. The way [...]

Sometimes You Have to be Weird to be Great: Success and Connection Through Introversion and Sensitivity

By |2015-09-22T16:06:15-05:00November 29th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

NBA superstar, Kobe Bryant, practices without a basketball. According to his former teammate, Shaquille O'Neal, Kobe spends time cutting, motioning and grunting like he is dribbling and shooting but without a ball. Shaq finds this weird but admits it seems to help Kobe's game. Bet you didn't think you'd get a sport's story here.;) Feeling weird in your [...]

Ever Feel Like You Need an Extrovert? Why It’s Wonderful for Introverts to Have Extroverts in Their Lives

By |2016-02-19T12:10:11-06:00November 22nd, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

  A sweet man recently asked if it was necessary for my partner to be an introvert. I had to think about it. Right after my marriage ended I swore I would never be in a longterm relationship with an extrovert again. They just don't get me.   We can't connect deeply and spiritually. But... in [...]

Religion, Traditions and Straying from What Feels Natural

By |2015-09-22T16:06:16-05:00November 8th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , |

I stepped out into the freezing rain and headed toward the closest door. An older gentleman walked by and offered me an umbrella. So nice he offered. Instant good feeling. I followed him to the sanctuary since I didn't know where I was going. I hadn't been to a church service in over 20 years. My [...]

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Sherrie
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
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Megan
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need … Read more
D.R.
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t… Read more
Evan H.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un… Read more
Gary
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
Sharon
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring… Read more
J.K.
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
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