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Calming Each Other’s Nervous Systems :We Need More Than Self-Soothing

By Brenda Knowles|2020-01-26T12:43:57-06:00August 19th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: comforting, ENFJ, ENFP, high sensitivity, high sensitivity and relationships, HSP, INFJ, INFP, INTJ, introvert, nervous system, relationships, self-soothing, soothing your partner, Stan Tatkin|

The chapter titled, Do Your Nervous Systems Play Well?, in marriage therapist, Stan Tatkin's book, Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate, grabbed my attention as a highly sensitive person. I've known for seven years that my nervous system is more easily aroused than about 80% of the population. I startle more [...]

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