Working Through Conflict with Passion and Compassion

By |2015-09-22T16:07:07-05:00October 12th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

I avoid conflict.  Frequent challenges to my beliefs, words or actions wear me down and suck away priceless energy.  Despite that confession, I am in the middle of training to become a Family Mediator (primarily a Divorce Mediator). A strange choice for someone who avoids conflict, right? Oddly enough other people’s contention doesn’t bother me as [...]

Divorce Done Right: How to Keep Your Post-Divorce Relationship Healthy and Friendly

By |2015-09-22T16:07:07-05:00September 28th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Do you ever regret getting divorced?  Is there any chance you and Jeff will get back together? I’ve recently fielded these questions. I guess people figure I have had enough time on my own to know whether I made a mistake or not. We started the divorce process last October. Jeff moved out in January. The divorce [...]

What It’s Really Like to End a Marriage and Start Over Pt. 3: Telling the Kids

By |2018-08-27T08:44:56-05:00June 15th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

We chose Friday night to tell the kids.  We figured this gave them a two-day buffer before they had to go back to school. Somehow Jeff (ex-husband) and I managed to make it through the pre-talk dinner without bursting into tears or throwing up. We told them we were going to have a family meeting in [...]

What It's Really Like to End a Marriage Pt. 2: Money, Mediation and Accounts

By |2015-09-22T16:07:11-05:00June 8th, 2012|Categories: Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

We sat in the divorce mediator's well appointed waiting room. Good cologne and flavored coffee mingled in the air.  My then husband, Jeff, and I filled out separate forms attached to clip-boards. A Keurig coffee machine sat between us. Our drive over together was chatty and not entirely uncomfortable; a mixture of first date, sheep-to-slaughter and relief. [...]

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