The mental, spiritual and social changes associated with the breakdown of a marriage.
I avoid conflict. Frequent challenges to my beliefs, words or actions wear me down and suck away priceless energy. Despite that confession, I am in the middle of training to become a Family Mediator (primarily a Divorce Mediator). A strange choice for someone who avoids conflict, right? Oddly enough other people’s contention doesn’t bother me as [...]
Do you ever regret getting divorced? Is there any chance you and Jeff will get back together? I’ve recently fielded these questions. I guess people figure I have had enough time on my own to know whether I made a mistake or not. We started the divorce process last October. Jeff moved out in January. The divorce [...]
I hate to admit it, but one reason my marriage failed was because life was too good. Success was overwhelming and numbing. We had it all —money, big home, healthy kids, personal trainers — and I missed the simplicity of my childhood. I longed for meaningful experiences with family, less complexity and the sincere words of [...]
Baby yellow sunshine warms our backs as blue grass music tickles the airwaves at Minnehaha Park. We move through the festival crowd in dot to dot fashion, culminating at the ice cream counter. You’ve been dreaming of salted carmel ice cream for days so you order right away as I search for something fruitier and brighter. [...]
My stomach is nervous and my brain is jumpy as I walk out into the cool dark morning. The air is slightly misty. The sun is absent. The new shirt I wear is crisp with creases much like the leaves on the trees. My new cords feel comfortable right now but will feel heavy and warm by [...]
Out of necessity I have trained myself to keep the blues and energy draining feelings in check. I am in no way saying that I do not get the blues or feel down and gloomy occasionally. I’ve experienced debilitating stress and profound sadness but I’ve also worked my way through such funks to see the light [...]
