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Seriously Distracted and Loving It

By |2015-09-22T16:07:11-05:00May 11th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

What if my kids don't have perfect grades, hair and manners?  What if I don't put together the perfect blog post?  What if I blow off a few things on my to-do list? What if I just let myself enjoy all the experiences and distractions that arise in my day? It's incredibly hard for me to [...]

Power Tools and Empowerment: Every Day a Little Bit Stronger

By |2015-09-22T16:07:12-05:00May 4th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Doesn't happen overnight but you turn around And a month's gone by and you realize you haven't cried ... I'm busy getting stronger ~ Sara Evans, A Little Bit Stronger You're not helpless!  My mom would say when I hesitated or balked about doing something intimidating to me, like mowing the lawn. Despite her affirmation, I questioned [...]

Introverts Do It Passionately and Creatively: How It’s Possible to Love Solitude and Be Popular

By |2017-05-05T17:58:09-05:00April 27th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , |

"Susan Cain is a closet extrovert."  — Unknown So read the juvenile and snarky comment on introvert author and champion, Susan Cain's blog. Susan's heavy presence in the media (TED Talks, NPR, morning shows) during her book promotion (Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking) made it seem like she thrived in [...]

The Power of Poetry: Helping Us Heal, Feel and Transition

By |2015-09-22T16:07:12-05:00April 20th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I taped Jorge Luis Borges's poem, You Learn, to the wall above my desk. It's helping me through the married to not married transition. It whispers messages about love and endurance when I need them. Often my eyes drift to the poem and gently land on a line or stanza... So you plant your garden and decorate your [...]

Halfway Home: Somewhere Between Building a Home and Feeling at Home

By |2015-09-22T16:07:12-05:00April 13th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

You strive, struggle and sacrifice to build a home.  To create a structure for your life that includes a home base.  But, do you feel at home?  Do you  breathe freely, laugh easily and love openly? Remember What It Feels Like to Be At Home? One of the places I always return to for comfort is [...]

Surviving Without Elite Status: Introducing Mindfulness To Kids Accustomed to Materialism and Competition

By |2016-03-19T18:31:12-05:00April 6th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I wasn't sure I was going to make it through the first three days of our vacation. My children bickered and battled for that damn elusive and short-lived nirvana —  Mom's full attention. They reminded me of drowning people climbing on each other in order to keep their head on top. They griped about having to fly [...]

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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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