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Divorce Done Right: How to Keep Your Post-Divorce Relationship Healthy and Friendly

By |2015-09-22T16:07:07-05:00September 28th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Do you ever regret getting divorced?  Is there any chance you and Jeff will get back together? I’ve recently fielded these questions. I guess people figure I have had enough time on my own to know whether I made a mistake or not. We started the divorce process last October. Jeff moved out in January. The divorce [...]

The Catastrophe of Success: Remove the Struggle, Lose Your Way of Being

By |2018-10-28T13:08:06-05:00September 14th, 2012|Categories: Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , |

I hate to admit it, but one reason my marriage failed was because life was too good. Success was overwhelming and numbing. We had it all —money, big home, healthy kids, personal trainers — and I missed the simplicity of my childhood.  I longed for  meaningful experiences with family, less complexity and the sincere words of [...]

Newly Divorced Introvert Follows Her Heart for a Change

By |2015-09-22T16:07:08-05:00September 7th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Baby yellow sunshine warms our backs as blue grass music tickles the airwaves at Minnehaha Park. We move through the festival crowd in dot to dot fashion, culminating at the ice cream counter. You’ve been dreaming of salted carmel ice cream for days so you order right away as I search for something fruitier and brighter. [...]

Lessons of Fall: Learning and Transitioning Post-Divorce

By |2015-09-22T16:07:08-05:00August 31st, 2012|Categories: Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

My stomach is nervous and my brain is jumpy as I walk out into the cool dark morning. The air is slightly misty.  The sun is absent.  The new shirt I wear is crisp with creases much like the leaves on the trees. My new cords feel comfortable right now but will feel heavy and warm by [...]

Do You Feel Alone in a Hostile World or Connected in a Compassionate One? An Introvert Looks at Two World Views

By |2015-11-20T16:22:08-06:00August 24th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

  Of course there are times when the Other does not act according to his or her highest values, but nevertheless we need to help people feel safe enough to choose caring over control. ~ Rabbi Michael Lerner When I was a kid I got excited when I found polished stones left in our dirt driveway. [...]

It's Never Too Late to Experience Mind Blowing Passion

By |2015-09-22T16:07:08-05:00August 17th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , |

romantic-cards.blogspot.com As we lay together, our bodies swimming in dopamine and light, he said, Passion’s different, in response to my rundown of future availability. What did he mean? He meant you can’t make passion fit into a schedule or go away. He likened it to a sled ride.  You get on and fly down the hill. [...]

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