Stories for and about those who recharge in solitude and feel life deeply.

What's the Right Way to Celebrate Father's Day or Mother's Day If You're an Introvert?

By |2015-09-22T16:05:58-05:00June 19th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People|

I was listening to several ladies gab on the radio the other day. Yes, I'm old and listen to talk radio. An older lady said she had a male friend who wanted to celebrate Father's Day by golfing by himself. A younger female said she thought that was wrong and that Father's Day is supposed to be [...]

When Everyone Wants a Piece of You and You’re an Introvert: How to Handle Physical Touch and Maintain Connection In Your Relationship

By |2015-10-23T21:26:20-05:00June 12th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

It's the first week of summer vacation. The kids are home every day. My mom-friend and I decided we feel scattered. There is no routine or structure, just reacting to everyone's current needs. Alone time is found in short drives to pick up kids and while folding sheets in the laundry room. If I'm lucky, I get up [...]

Are You More Type A or Type B? Relaxed and Intrinsically Motivated Means More Fulfilled in the Long Run

By |2015-09-22T16:05:58-05:00June 5th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

In the late 1950s, Drs. Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman began noticing similarities in their patients prone to heart disease. It was more than their diet and genetics. It was the similar ways they led their lives. Dr. Friedman noted that these patients demonstrated: “A particular complex of personality traits, including excessive competition drive, aggressiveness, impatience, [...]

How an Introvert Adds a Significant Other to Their Life : Making Space for Relationships

By |2016-02-02T11:48:57-06:00May 29th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

A 2014 study out of the University of Oxford found that we all seem to maintain a constant number of intimates, and when we add one, we drop one. While the number of people — what researchers call an individual's social signature —varies from person to person, each individual's social signature remains pretty constant. — Sophia Dembling, Introverts in [...]

Sapiosexuality: Curiosity and Intelligence, Two of the Biggest Turn Ons?

By |2016-09-29T13:36:12-05:00May 22nd, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , |

So hot! I was lit up mentally, spiritually and sexually. Spending the day privately touring the Minneapolis Institute of Arts newest exhibit turned me on. The curator's detailed and delicious delivery of facts and folklore fed my brain. The intermingling of history, art, beauty, politics and relationships perfectly activated my intuitive spider-web thinking. Ideas and concepts playfully had [...]

So You're Not CEO of Anything. You Are Calming, Comforting and Healing: Valuing Your Sensitive Introvert Skill-Set

By |2015-09-22T16:05:59-05:00May 15th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I have never had the right energy or skills to command others to do things. I don't have the instincts to be a boss. For many years, I thought it was better and more impressive to be in charge. I took classes and read books about being a leader, managing people and being in control. I observed and hoped to [...]

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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
Sharon
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