Can a Woman Do Well for Herself Without Feeling Guilty?

By |2020-09-24T17:07:55-05:00September 25th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It is time for me to admit I may not write a post every week. There are a variety of reasons: 1. I work full time as a paraprofessional at a high school. 2. My children are all home because of Covid 19, so food shopping and preparing have reached an all-time high. Yes, they should [...]

Leadership and Fortitude Fueled by Purpose

By |2020-09-16T17:16:28-05:00September 18th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

Not an actual student I went back to work this week. It has been six months since the high school shut its doors to block the pandemic. As a paraprofessional in the special education department, I get to return to work full time in person. The night before the first day of school, I [...]

Covid 19 and The Feminine Mystique

By |2020-09-11T15:44:25-05:00September 11th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Housewives of the 1950s and I have a kinship. I have a deep sense of unfulfillment if I do not get to do work beyond caregiving and household management. Friedan's phrase, "Is this all?" echoes in my head as I scour the Target aisles for granola bars with protein.

Moving from Management to Leadership

By |2020-09-04T08:41:32-05:00September 4th, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

"Leadership is doing the right thing, while management is doing things right." — Warren Bennis Leadership to me means the vision and drive to motivate others to move forward toward a worthwhile goal. I believe leaders should have the integrity to set goals that benefit many and the follow-through to complete those goals. Managers take charge [...]

For Women, Busy Means More Satisfaction

By |2020-08-28T13:27:51-05:00August 28th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

  According to Dr. Joan Borysenko, cofounder of the Mind/Body Clinic, Harvard Medical School, women are happiest when the opportunities for self-in relation are the greatest. One of the main pleasures of busy working women, not surprisingly, is the relatively large number of relationships that can develop in the work setting, as opposed to the relatively [...]

Taking Initiative: Moving from Passive to Proactive

By |2020-08-20T12:16:37-05:00August 21st, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

  Do you wait for instructions or do you initiate an activity? I used to be someone who waited for instructions and encouragement.  I had a fairly big fear of doing something wrong. I only felt confident moving forward if I had the approval and support of someone else. Bold or guilty? In Were You Raised [...]

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