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Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
J.K.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
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The Truth Behind My Writing Inspiration and Process

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A little behind the scenes tour of space2live’s purpose, process and inspiration.:)

I was generously invited to be part of a blog hop by the incredibly inspiring and creatively joy-bookenthusiastic Julie B. Genovese of nothingshortofjoy.com. Please check out Julie’s writing. I promise you will leave her site feeling better about yourself, the world, art, love, everything. Her style flows wildly and effervescently, such a JOY to read. While you’re at it, read some of the gushing reviews (one from Dr.Wayne Dyer!) for her book also titled, Nothing Short of Joy. I just ordered a signed copy.:)

About the blog hop: Each blogger on the blog hop tour answers four questions regarding their writing process then passes the baton on to three (or in my case two) other writers they admire. The two writers I chose to include are writing kindred spirits. Both of them have wise, thoughtful, engaging and meaningful messages to share. They express themselves elegantly. I enjoy them both immensely! Their bios are included at the end of this post.

Now on with the questions —

1. What am I working on? 

Beyond weekly posts for space2live on introversion, relationships and self-discovery, I have been writing guest posts for other sites like introvertspring.com. I also recently designed and wrote content for a professional website I hope to use as a foundation for a career in life coaching. I want to champion the introvert, the feeler and the feminine in all of us. I have a deep fascination and interest in coaching others with regards to intimacy. More to come on the coaching aspect as it progresses.

There is always the ever evolving book I keep in my head, in copious spiral notebooks and within the pages of space2live.

And… all of the above plays second or third or thirty-fifth to raising my three rascals and keeping our home safe, lively and loving.

2. How does my work differ from others of its genre?

I would say from the beginning my posts and stories have been more about the experience of living as an introvert rather than the explanation of what one is. My posts are often deeply personal containing everything from the shame of needing space from my children to the failing of my marriage to the glory of dating triumphs and passionate exploration. I don’t hold much back. My writing is poetic, flowery, sensual and real.

3. Why do I write what I do?

I didn’t like writing papers in school. I didn’t believe I was creative enough to write. It wasn’t until my late 30s that I realized writing isn’t all about making things up. It’s about getting them down. Thank you Brenda Ueland (my writing and personal hero).

Writing is truly cathartic and therapeutic for me. It’s my story and I learn about myself every time I write. The added bonus is the high I get from the reactions and connections I receive from readers who ‘get me’ and/or see themselves in my words.

It sounds cliché but I had this voice or message screaming inside of me that had to get out. It took me a long time to find validation for who I am. I want to hurry along that process for others. I spill my guts and feelings and hope to make others feel better or at least understood.

I want introverts and sensitive souls to know they are not alone. I want them to get the message, There is nothing wrong with you. 

Anytime, I soothe a wound, enhance a relationship or help someone hold their head high, I burst with happiness inside. It’s the best feeling.

4. How does your writing process work?

This would assume I have a writing process… Umm. I used to start writing a post on Monday in order to have something completed by Friday at 3PM. Now, most of the time I write the post on Thursday night and polish it up on Friday. I’ve learned to create faster. Adding images, suggested further reading and thoughtful questions at the end of the piece, can take up to two hours. I seem to need the pressure of a looming deadline in order to kick it in to high gear. I gave myself the 3PM deadline to feel more official and to limit my dillydallying. I honestly battle what writer, Steven Pressfield, calls Resistance every day for a good hour or two before I settle down and actually get the-beautiful-part-of-writing-is-that-you-dont-have-to-get-it-right-the-first-time-unlike-say-a-brain-surgeonanything coherent typed on the screen. I will do anything to avoid writing — check email, dink around on Pinterest, check my Match.com account, throw in laundry, respond to texts, polish silver, you get the picture. But then magically, I’ll find myself at the end of a post.

Most of my inspiration comes from other bloggers’ writing, books I read, daily experiences, mystical conversations and my dating life. I pay attention and note coincidences and feelings of wonder. My favorite things to write about are dating and relationships in general. I love love and all the nuances, heart bursting/breaking and growth that comes with it. I’m ever in awe of the human condition and its desire to connect spiritually, physically and emotionally.

 

 

And now to pass the blog baton on to two amazing writer heroines who will post responses to the four questions on their own sites on April 21st. I highly encourage you to check them out.

michaelachungMichaela Chung: Michaela is a writer, blogger and world traveler. She is the creator of michaelachung.com, a blog about authenticity, intimacy, nonconformity and the journey within.  Her Myers-Briggs personality type is INFP.  Read more about Michaela and her journey here.

 

 

Ilona Fried Blog PicIlona Fried:Ilona Fried is a writer, seeker, occasional contrarian and recovering introvert. Her blog, www.alacartespirit.com, reflects her curiosity and preference to avoid ordering from the prix fixe menu (of either food, assumptions or beliefs). A contemplative, she’s sat in silent retreats in Jewish and Zen settings and walked 520 miles of El Camino de Santiago in Spain. She strives in her writing to bring awareness and a spiritual perspective to the menu of life. Every so often she’ll rant.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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8 Comments

  1. […] The Truth Behind My Writing Inspiration and Process […]

  2. ilona fried April 21, 2014 at 2:33 pm - Reply

    Thanks again for inviting me to hop with you! I loved your candor; your writing is so fluid and engaging that I was surprised to read about your struggles with resistance. Could have fooled me me! And I blushed that you called me and Michaela heroines. 😉

    • Brenda Knowles April 21, 2014 at 5:38 pm - Reply

      I’m so glad you decided to hop.:) It was a good experience, wasn’t it? I enjoyed the process of pondering my reasons for writing and my future aspirations. That reflecting time is so golden. As I said, I admire your writing and find it so engaging. Now off to read your post.:)

  3. […] nearly hopped off my lily pad when Brenda Knowles, creator of space2live, invited me to participate in a “blog hop writing tour”. Brenda writes with candor, a […]

  4. Doug Toft April 15, 2014 at 7:59 pm - Reply

    Yikes. You posted on a Monday. You *can* teach an old Doug new tricks! And with a brilliant post to boot. Congrats on your success, including guest posting.

    • Brenda Knowles April 18, 2014 at 9:40 pm - Reply

      I just saw your comment! Thanks Doug. Yes, it was kind of strange to post on a Monday but that was a requirement of the blog hop. This was a great chance to articulate what I think I’m doing here on space2live.;)

  5. jujujubee2002 April 14, 2014 at 3:09 pm - Reply

    “This would assume I have a writing process…umm” and “polish the silver,” hee hee. I know exactly what you’re talkin about! Your post made me giggle and smile and nod my heart wistfully in agreement. And wow THANK YOU for such glorious compliments, oh my goodness. If only you could see me and my computer – we’re blushing wildly. Thank you so much for hopping with me! xo

    • Brenda Knowles April 14, 2014 at 9:26 pm - Reply

      Thanks for asking me to hop! It’s been a pleasure writing and getting to know you better.:)

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