Intimacy and Solitude Interrupted: Why We're Weary and Worn Out

By |2015-09-22T16:06:18-05:00September 13th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

“What makes lovemaking and reading resemble each other most is that within both of them times and spaces open, different from measurable time and space.” ― Italo Calvino It had been a month since we sat legs touching on the couch. It had been a month since I last kissed him at the corners of his [...]

Video: The Space We Need: An Introvert Wakes Up, Slows Down and Starts Living According to Her True Nature

By |2015-09-22T16:06:19-05:00August 16th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Don't explain your philosophy. Embody it. ~ Epictetus Something new for space2live... a short film (5 minutes, it's worth it).  A visual to enhance the many words spilled on the pages of this site. Through filmmaker, Nic Askew's, beautiful lens the experience, rather than the explanation, of an introvert is captured and shared in a soul [...]

The Introvert’s Love Affair with Solitude: Will It Always Be Taboo?

By |2017-01-18T14:29:56-06:00August 9th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago.  I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband.  A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]

Confessions of an Introverted Parent

By |2015-10-19T12:30:52-05:00June 14th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I'm ashamed I have to white-knuckle it through summer.  Summer is supposed to be carefree and super sunny smiley, right? As I've mentioned before, socializing and stimulation are big energy expenders for introverts.  We may love the company and excitement of a gathering or activity but afterward solitude will be sought in order to recharge. When [...]

Someone All Introverts Should Know: Brenda Ueland on Solitude, Creativity and Relationships

By |2016-03-19T18:06:40-05:00May 31st, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , |

In 2008 I began to wake up from the deep sleep of 'supposed to'. I was married, living in the suburbs with three children, a loyal husband, part-time nanny and weekly personal training sessions.  It was what I wanted (it's what most people want, right?) and it was wonderful in many ways, but something was missing. [...]

Beautifully High Standards: An Introvert Waxes About Online Dating, Deliciously Independent Partners and Slow Honest Intimacy

By |2015-09-22T16:07:00-05:00April 5th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Being the introverted, freedom-loving woman I am, it would make sense that I celebrate single-hood and relish activities that are self-directed but I’ve found dating to be exciting and expansive as well. Oh sure, I’ve been involuntarily groped in a coffee-shop parking lot and forced to sit through unusually long cat stories (complete with pictures), but overall [...]

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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
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