Exhausting Perfection I'm Breaking Up with You

By |2015-09-22T16:07:03-05:00January 11th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I’ve experienced the most delicious freedom over the last few months. The interesting thing is I still have the same responsibilities and reasons to stress, maybe more now, but something is different. It’s not like this freedom, this peace, was not previously available .  It was always there. Imperfect in Suburbia The difference is I no longer [...]

Sensual Renaissance: The Rise of Affection and Touch

By |2015-09-22T16:07:04-05:00January 4th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

I was nine or ten when the nude print appeared in the bathroom at my dad's house.  I remember staring at it after closing the door.  The central figure was a woman in pale pinks and blues— all soft curves and exposed pubic hair. My first thoughts were, Now Dad is into dirty stuff. What will my [...]

Introvert Relationships, Self-Actualization and Sensuality: Best of Space2live 2012

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00December 28th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

As the core values of space2live crystallize, I discover myself. In 2011's Best Of post, I stated my intention to be more open in my 2012 writing. I succeeded.  I let my sensuality slip out from behind the ornate dressing screen.  I revealed my divorce story, despair and all. I admitted my weaknesses and shortfalls when [...]

Becoming Real: What Happens When You've Been Through Some Sh*t

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00December 21st, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

English: pg 18 and 19 of The Velveteen Rabbit. (Photo credit: Wikipedia) It doesn't happen all at once, said the Skin Horse. You become. It takes a long time. ...Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in [...]

Introverted Not Incompetent:Validating Softer Life Skills

By |2015-09-22T16:07:07-05:00October 19th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

As an introvert, there have been countless times when someone else got the job/attention/raise/praise/boyfriend because they were quicker on their feet, vibrantly outgoing, tireless and more aggressive than me. If you lose out enough times, you start to feel inadequate or incompetent. There’s a fair amount of shame that goes along with feelings of incompetence.  I [...]

We Sometimes Cry in Public Bathrooms: How Introverts Handle Change and Disruptions at Work

By |2015-09-22T16:07:08-05:00September 21st, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

Change in the workplace How’s My Energy? Crabby? It’ll Pass In my early working days of Dilbert-esque jobs in cubicle-laden environments, change was as welcome as a turd in the vending machine.  I’d wrinkle my nose, shake my head and mutter No f*in’ way! under my breath when change was announced. I didn’t find my work [...]

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