Brenda’s Current Thoughts : What Do You Think?

By |2016-07-15T08:32:00-05:00July 15th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Hello Everyone! I hope you're experiencing sunshine on your shoulders and mid-summer breezes. I'm living and working casually this summer. My world is full of people lately — old friends, close family, new dates, new mentors and fascinating clients. My introverted soul is up and down with energy, but mostly up. I feel a sense of calm and good. [...]

Finding and Maintaining a Secure Relationship: Back to the Dating Drawing Board

By |2016-09-22T09:07:38-05:00July 8th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

As I trip along in the dating world again— juggling dates, phone calls, texts and hearts (theirs, mine) — I hold close to my chest the self and world wisdom garnered from my last loves. I keep my head up and eyes open for the soft spark of a secure soul, someone who believes in relationship [...]

Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion

By |2017-02-03T10:45:45-06:00April 15th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

A few years ago while engaging in the online dating scene, one intriguing man —a big guy with a blue-collar job and an intellectual mind— brought the term avoidant attachment style to my attention. He and I had one or two dates and several emails filled with interesting and meaningful conversation. We both were huge readers fascinated by personal [...]

Ms. Deeply Feeling Loves Mr. Intensely Logical: How to Make a Thinker/Feeler Relationship Work

By |2017-06-23T14:46:04-05:00October 9th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

dreamer girl I've always been sensitive. My feelings and emotions sit just below my thin skin, waiting to pour out at the slightest positive or negative provocation. When I was a child, all my dad had to do was raise his voice and I was in tears. No wonder my mom always said, Brenda [...]

Introvert Dating in Her 40s: It's Good. It's Bad. It's Different This Time Around.

By |2015-09-22T16:06:11-05:00May 2nd, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

Back in my 20s when I was dating the first time, men weren't exactly beating down my door. I'd had two boyfriends in college and a sprinkling of making out and phone calls beyond that. As a teen and twenty-something I was not confident. I didn't feel interesting. I never led conversations at parties. I wasn't [...]

Turned On by Intuition: Are Introverts More Intuitive?

By |2015-11-14T10:13:33-06:00April 25th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Dinner lasted four hours, going through two waitresses, countless water fill-ups and a Chapstick re-application. Even as we stood up to leave the conversation didn't dwindle. Our ideas and perspectives flowing from our mouths and minds with the effortlessness of breathing. Two intuitives igniting each other in the most collaborative sexy way. I am turned on. [...]

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