I'm just a honest guy who doesn't play games and I want a good woman to be with that I can trust. That's my entire time with her boiled down into one reflex of feeling like I was an atm. N the messed up part is I prlly won't ever try n get into another relationship cause my trust is soo messed up!! You should know damn well better than that. Performance & security by Cloudflare. Wife must learn to deal with mother of husband's child. In some cultures, its normal for a guy to call his girlfriend his baby mama as a way of saying hes committed to her and sees her as wife and/or mother material. But yet I will never be good enough!!! The mother of his son tends to call at the worst times, and even sends him messages late at night on occasion. I have not a drop of ANY type of feelings for him! he knew this and thought that if he got me pregnant i would somehow magically want to be with him when in fact it made matters worse. Do you want to be a single mom? Baby mamas are very evil and jealous especially when the man doesn't want them and is in a growing relationship with someone else. (Solution). We have kids here people. Nice try though as I told the other chic. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. Of course, its not the only way to show that hes committed to you, but its a good start! For the fact that they are even baby mamas they are worthless! I love him so much and fought for two years to make sure he was involved. This is no big deal, and you shouldn't sweat it. We do so good together and everything seems happy and healthy but everytime he comes back he's mad and tryna act like ive done something wrong. 8 mths later domestic violence charge. So, do I have "drama" - yup! Lots of mixed emotions. Continue with this affair or just drop get rid of him and say it's over finally over you had enough of this and you want out and you will call the police on him if he doesn't leave you alone. I feel really bad for your situation see Im female though who has done nothing but stick by her man even though he's done nothing but treat me like shit, they way he talks to me, calls me every name under the sun, our son is one month old and I've jusy found that hes been messaging girls behind my back, this is the third time of him messaging girls and I really don't know what to do, I don't want my son to have a broken family but I've just got to the point where I think he will never change I've been loyal to him took him in and everytime we argue I feel bad in kicking him out because he has nowhere to go so today even though ive seen him message girls he's lay in my bed whilst I'm in the bath holding back tears wondering what I done wrong to be getting treated this way, This is some real ass shit, I swear if every man and woman was as straight up as this. Women can be evil when it comes to the heart. It would not matter where I am at in life or who I am with, if she would give things another shot I would drop anything and everyone to do just that. Bounce out baby. When he is dating I respect his personal life and I expect him to do the same for me. I'm not attracted to him in anyway, anymore. wow you really need to chill out because no body is a worthless. We hadn't had sex for 3 weeks because he'd come home from "work" and sleep on the couch. Babe. Now he goes out at night with this girl and in his phone talking to 3 more . And there are different takes to alot of things. She knows all about me and I know all about her but we never met in person and when I tried to reach out to her myself she told my bf that I messaged her .. she blocked me too. Here are 10 things it means when a guy calls you Mama: 1. telling the truth I am going through the same thing, but mine is multiple. Her father is semi on the scene (couple of times a week, doesn't really contribute anything), recently I've noticed that her BD tends to crack jokes in chat which she finds hilarious. After awhile the interactions became flirty. People are telling me that he will come back, but I do not know if I should be hopeful. She put me in a really dark place.then one day she left at 4 am while i was working.and continued acting single chasing anything involving parties.So with that said how can i love someone so abusive. He wants to keep you locked down. I said nothing about anyone's flaws. Ask yourself these questions first: 6. So I have a question to the men and would appreciate an honest opinion and advice. I had my daughter very young and I might of had puppy love with her father but I do not think we ever had a deep emotional bond which made it easier for us both to move on. no reasons. Knowing that those women will always own a part of him gets to me, can't lie. And miserable, angry, furious, and everything else. Your raising a boy who will grow up to be a man and he needs to know and see how a REAL man handles his business. Just hope she could see i learned b4 its to late. I'm all ears, but until this day, he stalks me alittle and still calls. I would not continue this relationship. He told me he wanted his family back and began to show me that he meant it and did all the things he should but told me 3 months later she was 5 months pregnant and I should have ran, but I didn't and I decided if he really didn't want to be with her and did what he should to put me at ease, it would be okay. 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. That's why, if I were single. he just tells me to be patient because he will buy them an apartment to move in too and that everything would be back to normal. I know I try but the shit she says sounds believable..they were together for 8 year there son is 3 I think deep down he still has feelings for her (even tho he talks bad about her ) and now we have a kid together..I think it's the same thing all over again. Find a great single dude, forget about this dude, even if the sex was out of this world, use logic when picking your men, the emotional shit is what has you in pain, the logic told you to leave. He is manipulating you. You sound like you have other problems that need your attention. Why would he call me sis? Be it though I was in a relationship myself at the time with my other two children father. I go forward not backwards! bigles2000. I call my kids little love, baby, buddy, doll, honey, etc. Required fields are marked *. This could indicate an expired SSL certificate or a certificate that does not include the requested domain name. (I dont recommend that girlfriends try and contact or interact with the co-parents unless its about the well-being of the child. You know yall arent compatible, you know this. Im sure he doesnt mean to offend you and will stop using the term if you ask him to. But hes not all to blame i take full responsibility for the desaster i made of my life. Maybe it was just a nickname without importance. He dropped off pampers later that day and while intoxicated, attacked me because I filed for child support that day and I did not want to keep the baby. That makes you the side chick. You hope shes treated fairly and the same if not better if he decides to have children with your bm, but you can take control and see your daughter more if your bm isnt a nut case. So long story short they don't have to love the baby mama for you to hear them talking about her or for you to feel insecure. Im asking because my bf has a child and the bm comes with all sorts of drama. After all, those are all great . She is 7 months and he is just not telling me and his family. I feel you on all that. For some, yes, maybe they didn't want the relationship to end and the break wasn't their choice. Some women find being called a baby mama offensive, so if you dont like it you should make that clear to your guy. Additional troubleshooting information here. Um - each situation is different I guess. But, do men, (and women) ever "get over" the relationship? Not "love" but "Love" the way back in the bedroom when they can! ), As they say in church, he needs to get his house in order. I agree . Its a common question; What does it mean if my boyfriend calls me his baby mama?. Apparently he travels a lot working, leaving little time for him to spend with his son. We all make mistakes. Or just something someone might say to any girl Cus of the mommy jokes going around. My x and I have been divorced 20 years he married the girl he left me for. Its certainly a term of endearment then. If he doesn't do it, let him go.hard as it may be you will be better off not having to share someone. I mean, there's just . She needs to move on.. I'm pretty sue that if it was you in that position you would not be saying such things. What to do when u r confronted by your boyfriend's baby mama Boyfriend who won't be a man. When he is home he barley spends time with my son. Additional troubleshooting information here. I was once in a relationship with someone who has two kids. Why don't you upgrade to a nice stable upper class life? Shes married my son seems to love the guy. Fast forward 2 weeks later, he was calling my phone to get some. It's not his wife it's him he's letting it happen ( he's an a**hole), any guy that leaves his family is dirt! Fact that he doesn't want you to text, call or see him often is more proof that he's still with her. He hasn't been working and has no car and all this stuff and is on my phone plan from living with me, and I let him keep it because it is important that I can communicate for our child. My sons father is 20. I don't even know what to do about it anymore. our son is a month now but we.broke up Aug 17 and.didnt stop having sex until October while he was with his ex girlfriend/new fiancee..he left me for his ex..now after.we had our son we.doing so parenting he wants.to have sex. My boyfriend left me for his baby mama, now he wants me back. All the best beautiful mothers . 185.151.48.205 It's popular, but that doesn't make it less meaningful. I wont get over it. But shit change and he grabbed my attention. No. HE TOLD ME THEIR RELATIONSHIP ENDED LONG TIME AGO? Take care. He compares you to her (ya'll could be in a constant competition because if he loves her, he values her more) 2. He's done something disrespectful to her. A few of the signs to look out for that might confirm - or help deny - this are: He's always the one that initiates contact with her or he's always the one replying first. But im not sure he did..think he stayed with me cuz she isnt going anywhereits been a yr ..this chick comes in n chills every time she drops off her soni have told him she needs to drop off their son and goi dont trust them ..n its no way to live..i cant tell you what to do..just hope it works out for u..so far not great for me..i think its exit time..this chick will be around for awhile and im sure try getting him back again like she admitted before..sending him naked pics..that he erased off messages just not off his gallery..n he still erases all his text from her..so guess its up to u.i have two boys but their father doesnt come around n i know if he were around i definitely wouldn't get away with doing what my boyfriend n his ex do..n i wouldn't cuz its disrespectful good luck!! I'm feeling lost here with all these responses. Her and my son never want for anything! Deep down they are still hoping or wishing things had worked out differently, especially if there wasn't something major like abuse or cheating going on. When he decided to come back he asked to send him money and I did and he was back the same day . Sounds like to me she is playing a game. When I tried doing research there was nothing on this? Manage Settings Move on.. GET AWAY FROM THIS GUY! Speak up, tell him how you feel and if he doesn't take a stand then you know that he really isnt worth it. By entering this site you declare **** your feelings. My ex was doing the same thing to me. 3. Latest Boyfriend Calls Me Mommy updates. Just know that you are perfectly fine. Well I'm falling for a man with 2 "babymamas" recently and it sucks. Please Help. Distance is the biggest enemy when in a fight, and has been translated as the widening of a wedge. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a Can my boyfriend still love his baby mama? If he did call you mama because he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language and behavior which could include: There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show you that get talked about, in an ebook, here. Ignore the fact that the wife back home can't do the same. He compliments your appearance. He was abusive during my pregnancy. My boyfriend and I've been together for a year now, I dnt have any problem with him having kids. How to react to my man going to his baby mamas house all the time? Isn't it kind of selfish to date someone when you feel this way? He ate up all the soap. Well heres my story me and my kids dad had been together since i was 16 and he was 19 at the time he had a baby on the way me n baby mama went back n forth for a while I'm older and knw exactly why we went back n forth considering I had children of my own with him 4 years later into our relationship well after I first child we were perfect then he got shot I nursed him back to health then I got pregnant again after the second baby we never had time to rekindle our love cuz I was too busy working n being a mom our kids are 4 and going on 3 we have been broken up for 2 years now messing around on n off well a girl he started working with before we ended happens to be his girlfriend now they been together going on two years she swears they did nothing while we were together I find it hard to believe tho he's putting her through so much and me because he wont just let me go I wasted 7 years of my life with him n finally he's ready to move all the way on with her because she will give him whatever he desires even if loosing self respect such as prostitution I can't make this up but we tried to get back together pointless of times bit it never works then he winds back up over there with her well he's on my blocklist now for hurting my feelings for the last time saying hes just gona marry her so just say **** him because hes moved out of town now to try to get his life together so shes won't now as she thinks can't help but wonder if this is a repeat from us in the beginning expect I dont think I ever got a fair shot at this love thing now i dont know what love really is anymore and I'm tired of it hurting me idk if it hurta him as bad or if how could he really love her but just wanted his family back smh its so frustrating that I cry sometimes because i been let him go n was moving on n then he knows how to get me back n then doesnt want me when i want him but wants me when I dont want him its just crazy meanwhile I can't believe i have to find a man to love me n my kids as his whole he think he has it all figured out smh I will never understand how logic but she ca. We would have sex on and off . I knew about his living sitution , and I would say the end of 2014 the girl became pregnant and had a girl in June 2015. Back in January he moved out of the household , so things for us , became real better. should I stay with or leave him. Trust me its a hard pill to swallow regardless of which end of it youre on. You should be ashamed of yourself. That dont make my bm a side chick when im telling whoever im talking to that she comes 1st. How is that possible when I dont know the girl who knows your wife? Honestly, I haven't been happy for the past 3 years deep down because i know this other woman will forever be in his life. Yes theyre are always memories and depending on how long ya have been together. Let me break it down for you. My boyfriend cannot put boundaries with his baby mama, she calls whenever she likes, he cannot answer her calls in front of me, I found him sending pictures of his late mother to her with crying emojis..this is disturbing but I dont think I'm ready to accept that he is not ready to put me first and our relationship. Hey everyone I am confused and I like for someone guy or Girl to give me feedback please I will try to be brief but it will be hard. Last summer we had a bad falling out that lead me to move on with someone else. Even if you want him still you have to make not more contact with him. His bm hates me and always calls me a **** claiming she's dating him anytime we talk. This has been going on for over a year and I feel bad for the girl who has no idea or maybe suspecta like you and I know how that feels as he was lying to me when he was cheating on me with her. For a while when I got back he was all about me and didn't pay her much mind he didn't get confirmation it was his son until the boy was like 5/6 and that's when he started being nice and there for her she would tell him all her problems he did the same they ended up ****in on the low i actually was told there dude and I didn't belt it but my dumb ass realized what it was when his car was outside a motel. His marriege was not based on love but more of a need for sex as he put it. Hell I even take care of the 2 kids she had wit my alleged friend! I do not like for my ex to call me that and I have asked him not to. If I could take her to school with me I would but all the slots were full. OP, regardless of what might be going on, the bottom line is you deserve better treatment than this. AskMen Reader. If you are happy with that ranking, then great carry on, but if you have aspirations of being more than his OW, then you need to cut this guy loose. True. Anyway he was hiding her they where going out to dinner together and the kids and I noticed the biggest diff when he was talking to her on a daily and he started doing way more then he ever did for them he ain't even do more for the other two he had with other ppl. Jeremy Vine calls missing Nicola case a 'murder' in live BBC blunder; Newborn baby and mother rescued after spending 90 hours under rubble; Terrifying moment gunman fires bullets into mother and . I was devastated and it all made since, but he took away my choice in this. "Babe" is a pretty common nickname to use for your boyfriend. My question why does my ex insist on having sex with me if he is so happy with his new girlfriend. He Means it in a Romantic Way. In order to . He spent all last week at my house and of course we are physically attracted to each other so we have been having sex the whole time. Strangely enough, I think it's easier for women to get over the father of their kids than for men to get over a babymama. Even his wife said, she didn't expect that he could go without sex for that long. We had ALOT of attraction and chemistry, but absolutely no compatability. I know its not always easy to bring up something like this, especially if he clearly likes calling you this name and it makes him happy. They think that nothing bad can happen to them and that they were in love with each other. When it comes to infidelity, IMO men cheat physically, women cheats emotionlly and physically. Sounds like his wife is now in town. But he tried to tel me I set him up wow I said to him. George, dont chop any parts off. But he doesnt know his boundaries.