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How Much Do Your Environment and Your Relationships Shape Your Personality?

By |2020-05-22T12:09:31-05:00May 22nd, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I just did one of those personal profile inventories for work. It is based on the Myers Briggs inventory but abbreviated. Interestingly, my results came back significantly different from my Myers Briggs preferences of eight, nine years ago. It made me again believe that we change as we age and go through different circumstances. Tale of [...]

Shortcuts Rob Us of Our Potential

By |2020-05-14T09:27:30-05:00May 15th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Shortcuts rob us of completion and mental toughness. I heard former Navy SEAL, Mark Divine, say that. I agree. It goes along with the idea of making our bed every day. My son tells me it does not make sense to make his bed because he is just going to get into it and mess it [...]

500th Post!! When Something Changes Your Life’s Course

By |2020-05-07T10:19:06-05:00May 8th, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

This is it folks, my 500th post! Nine years of weekly posts. I'm patting myself on the back for sticking with it and showing up every Friday. The website supports my coaching, book sales and online courses, but mostly the writing has been my expressive outlet, my small contribution to the world and my connection to [...]

Internal Locus of Control or Leave It Up to a Higher Power?

By |2020-04-23T09:12:35-05:00April 24th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

While doing online professional development training in: suicide prevention, behavioral regulation, minimizing school violence, working with children with ADHD, etc. I've been reminded of the resilience found in an internal locus of control.

Evolution Is Not Being In Flow

By |2020-04-17T10:49:53-05:00April 17th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

  Finding the exact right mix of challenge and skill that leads us to a fulfilling flow state, is a gift we love to receive. I've mentioned how I achieve the flow state while writing, running, conversing and making love. Time and effort feel fluid in flow. Ideas and meaning float to the surface while in [...]

Personality Based on Time, Experience and Context

By |2020-04-08T14:21:19-05:00April 10th, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Instead of asking whether someone is gritty, we should ask them when they are.   — David Epstein, Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World I'm trained as a Myers Briggs practitioner. That means I know how to administer and interpret the Myers Briggs personality inventory. I know the sixteen type preferences and I know the history [...]

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