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I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
J.K.
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie

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Men, Gentleness and Physical Touch: A Recipe for Openness and Evolution

By | 2015-10-23T21:18:09-05:00 November 15th, 2013|Categories: Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , |

  In American culture, we believe that men can never be entirely trusted in the realm of the physical. We collectively suspect that, given the opportunity, men will collapse into the sexual at a moment’s notice...And where does this leave men? Physically and emotionally isolated. Cut off from the deeply human physical contact that is proven [...]

Intimacy and Solitude Interrupted: Why We're Weary and Worn Out

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:18-05:00 September 13th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

“What makes lovemaking and reading resemble each other most is that within both of them times and spaces open, different from measurable time and space.” ― Italo Calvino It had been a month since we sat legs touching on the couch. It had been a month since I last kissed him at the corners of his [...]

I Belong Deeply to Myself But I'll Let You In: The Ebb and Flow of Introvert Intimacy

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:57-05:00 August 2nd, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude. — Warsan Shire The delicious experiencing of our thoughts is so nourishing it is hard to leave that space.  Lovers may entice, cajole, and whimper but still we are drawn to the space of solitude.  The space where we are content and [...]

Emotional Intimacy: An Introvert’s Ultimate Turn On?

By | 2015-10-19T11:08:33-05:00 July 19th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , |

When was the first time you made love? The last time? I was in my 40s before I really made love. What took me so long? Why didn't I experience that heavenly closeness and soulmate sanctity before my fourth decade? Because making love involves emotional AND physical intimacy. I never truly felt safe or in love [...]

How Does Introversion Affect Your Sexuality?

By | 2015-10-19T11:15:17-05:00 June 28th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

Do you need a deep emotional or mental connection in order to be sexually attracted to someone? If so, you may be a demisexual.  New word for you?  Me too, until I read, Are You a Demisexual? on Lonerwolf's website. I encourage you to check out Lonerwolf. The writing is evocative and validating for loners, introverts, introspectives [...]

Sensuality, Aliveness, A Childhood Friend and Marilyn Monroe

By | 2018-10-28T13:00:46-05:00 February 1st, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

She didn’t live long enough to experience good sex or beautiful lovemaking. Yet, she sure experienced her share of teen petting and making out.  I would not say she was slutty or promiscuous but she was absolutely boy crazy. She enjoyed dressing to attract the opposite sex. I can still see her in her black silky [...]