The mental, spiritual and social changes associated with the breakdown of a marriage.

Establishing Boundaries to Create Profound Intimacy: Drawing the Line in Introverted Relationships

By |2017-12-01T16:03:43-06:00August 8th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|

During most of my marriage I had mushy boundaries. Neither my ex-husband nor I had a good grasp on who we were as individuals but he had the more dominant extroverted personality so I let my identity form based on his and society's expectations. As I developed more self-awareness toward the end of our relationship, I [...]

How to Reconnect: Maintaining Sexual Interest, Engagement and Identity in Your Relationship

By |2015-10-20T13:34:56-05:00April 11th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Notes from the dating world: Over sushi, we talked about couples who spend the majority of their time together —working, playing, family events – and couples who do their own thing and then come together for twenty minutes to an hour at the end of the day. He said he preferred to spend the majority of his time [...]

Mid-Life Crisis or Natural Transition? Hindsight and Jungian Psychology Bring Clarity to an Introvert’s Divorce

By |2015-10-23T22:01:39-05:00January 31st, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

She doesn't want to be married to me. That's the answer my ex-husband gave his mother when she asked, prior to our divorce, if we had a chance at reconciliation. The truth of it stung my ears. What kind of a bitch am I?, I wondered. My own mother questioned me repeatedly about my decision to [...]

Solitude: What It Takes to Complete Work and Complete You

By |2015-09-22T16:06:14-05:00January 24th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Alone again. I feel I've come full circle from January 2012 when I was newly single and aching for personal expression and independence. I had an aliveness that vibrated subcutaneously, poised to spill out from my smile.  I wanted to take classes, write, read, travel, nurture friendships, figure out Brenda, be seen as Brenda. Sometimes being seen [...]

Does Your Partner Need a Lot of Space? Introvert or Just Not That Into You?

By |2015-10-19T11:58:05-05:00January 10th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

Do you want to be with me or would you rather be alone?  Many of space2live's extroverted readers have asked this question in various forms. How much alone time do I grant the introvert before it ceases to be a relationship? Her space is hurting our intimacy. What about me? We only see each other once [...]

Space2live's Top 10 Posts for 2013 and A Personal List of Lessons Learned

By |2015-09-22T16:06:14-05:00January 3rd, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

It's been an incredible year of growth for myself and space2live. I include my own growth in this post because based on your comments and readership I believe my personal experiences as a single introvert fumbling through love, parenthood and self-exploration, resonate with you. If they don't resonate, you at least find them amusing or informative [...]

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I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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Gary
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Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
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BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
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