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Top 5 Reads of 2020

By |2020-12-22T17:56:27-06:00December 25th, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  It is that time of year again. Time for my top five reads of the year. I read the same amount of fiction as non-fiction this year. Usually, I read more non-fiction. I needed to escape more into stories this year. The books are not in any particular order but if I had to pick [...]

Being Needed Vs. Being Valued

By |2020-12-18T05:47:29-06:00December 18th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Some people think it is great to be needed. Others find it a turn off. I think those who like to be needed lean toward insecurity and see being needed as a sign of safety. No one will leave them because they are needed too much. Children Need Us Our children need us when they are [...]

Avoidant Attachment and Caregiving

By |2020-12-10T12:22:07-06:00December 11th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

It seems like I have written more personal update posts this year than ever before. Well, here comes another one. Last week my husband had triple bypass surgery. We found out two weeks prior that he had five significant blockages in his arteries. Needless to say, we were thrown into a bit of a tizzy. He [...]

Gratitude Helps Us with Self Control

By |2020-12-10T06:46:41-06:00December 4th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I listened to a podcast on Hidden Brain about the benefits of gratitude. I was surprised to hear that a strong gratitude practice can help us with self-control and delayed gratification. The speakers — a journalist and a psychologist— referenced the marshmallow experiment. The one where children are told they can have one marshmallow right now [...]

How to Support and Respect an Introvert: A Family Rules! TV Interview

By |2020-11-27T13:57:04-06:00November 27th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Hi Everyone! As promised, here is my television interview on Family Rules!. I was nervous watching myself but my family said I did a great job and they are not biased at all. ;) In the interview the host Brooke Walker and I talk about: 1. Introversion and the highly stimulating world of today 2. [...]

Raising an Introverted Child Television Interview Airs This Weekend

By |2020-11-18T17:19:57-06:00November 20th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|

    Hi Everyone! This week's post is going to be short and sweet. The interview I did in the summer in Utah will air this Sunday at noon or 1PM (I'm not sure what time zone the schedule is in). Here is the link to watch it https://www.byutv.org/familyrules. It is on the show Family Rules!  [...]

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