500th Post!! When Something Changes Your Life’s Course

By |2020-05-07T10:19:06-05:00May 8th, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

This is it folks, my 500th post! Nine years of weekly posts. I'm patting myself on the back for sticking with it and showing up every Friday. The website supports my coaching, book sales and online courses, but mostly the writing has been my expressive outlet, my small contribution to the world and my connection to [...]

The Importance of Managing Emotional Labor

By |2020-04-29T15:15:14-05:00May 1st, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Image Source: Pixabay   As we all shelter in place, the division of labor at home becomes interesting. This article on emotional labor feels timely. For me, emotional labor is both energizing and draining. When I do it for clients, it's a labor of love and it gives me an energy boost. When I juggle emotions [...]

Internal Locus of Control or Leave It Up to a Higher Power?

By |2020-04-23T09:12:35-05:00April 24th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

While doing online professional development training in: suicide prevention, behavioral regulation, minimizing school violence, working with children with ADHD, etc. I've been reminded of the resilience found in an internal locus of control.

Evolution Is Not Being In Flow

By |2020-04-17T10:49:53-05:00April 17th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

  Finding the exact right mix of challenge and skill that leads us to a fulfilling flow state, is a gift we love to receive. I've mentioned how I achieve the flow state while writing, running, conversing and making love. Time and effort feel fluid in flow. Ideas and meaning float to the surface while in [...]

Personality Based on Time, Experience and Context

By |2020-04-08T14:21:19-05:00April 10th, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Instead of asking whether someone is gritty, we should ask them when they are.   — David Epstein, Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World I'm trained as a Myers Briggs practitioner. That means I know how to administer and interpret the Myers Briggs personality inventory. I know the sixteen type preferences and I know the history [...]

Do You Persevere When You Should Quit?

By |2020-04-02T12:09:29-05:00April 3rd, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

According to career writing author, Seth Godin, we fail when we stick with tasks we don't have the guts to quit. This made me think of both work and relationships. Stuck in a career path There have been times when I continued to do a job a certain way, because that is how I learned to [...]

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