Sometimes I cannot believe how lucky I am. The other day I was invited to a private tour of the Habsburg exhibit at the Minneapolis Institute of Arts. One of the museum’s esteemed curators, Eike Schmidt, PhD, led our small group of seven through the elegant galleries containing exquisite sculptures, paintings,weapons, artifacts, armor, carriages, etc., all belonging to the Habsburg family — a dynasty that reigned over much of Europe for a record six centuries ending in 1918. Eike’s rich timbered voice, the correlations drawn between art and peace and the stories revealed through each magnificent item left my inspiration, passion and meaning-seeking mind positively intoxicated.
Early in the tour, we paused in front of a bronze bust of Holy Roman Emperor Charles V. Eike pointed out the god and goddess of war posed at the base of the sculpture. He said that force and wisdom were both revered characteristics considered necessary for proper ruling and conquering during that period.
Hmmmm. I surreptitiously took notes on my iPhone so I could mentally munch on that thought later.
Fighters, conquerors = Force = Masculine?
Thinkers, guides = Wisdom = Feminine?
Extroverts = Force?
Introverts = Wisdom?
Action vs. Consideration
Why do the forceful, gregarious types get all the glory? Could society’s beliefs ever return to the notion that force and wisdom are equally valuable and interesting?
Should love relationships contain a warrior and an advisor?
Dr. Elaine Aron, author of The Highly Sensitive Person, says our culture has a balance or natural state of being that involves warrior kings and priestly advisors. Society needs those who boldly act and those who deftly consider. Think King Arthur and Merlin. Jobs and Wozniak. Note our executive and judicial branches of government. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking author, Susan Cain, thinks FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt also fit this ideology.
I am more wisdom than force. Should I look for force in a mate so we can rule and conquer to the best of our ability?
I know my beau and I joked around calling each other Force and Wisdom after hearing Eike explain their importance to the Holy Roman Empire. My guy’s military background (warrior, yes?), active lifestyle and masculine presence are in true contrast to my writer/mother background, selectively active lifestyle and feminine demeanor. We definitely have a dance of differences going and… it works. Although, I must add he has a solid amount of wisdom as well.
I analyzed other relationships in my little universe. I looked at both business relationships and intimate relationships with an emphasis on the intimate ones. When I reviewed the relationships I had some degree of inside knowledge regarding, I found many of them contained a clear mover and a clear supporter or grounding individual. One out front and one behind them nurturing and seeing their potential. Is it the same in your universe?
Are we all Force AND Wisdom later in life?
I am going to wildly generalize here when I say I see most introverts as the behind the scenes advisor types. The high-flying extroverts appear to be more of the ‘put me in coach’ warrior types. But I know many intrepid introverts and thoughtful extroverts. We all exhibit such traits at certain times. In fact, I believe as we age, we often take on roles or characteristics that were not natural to us when we were younger. I think we all become more introspective as we age. In contrast, recognizing our mortality, we also may adopt a ‘You only live once’ attitude.
What causes you to change roles?
Perhaps the warrior/advisor dichotomy is situational. One person’s life dream could cause them to act boldly out of character if they are given the chance to make it happen. I know I am braver and more ‘outer world’ when I champion or discuss a passion of mine.
Our most beloved leaders and characters embody elements of courage and wisdom, do they not?
How Force and Wisdom affect each other
Whether or not the contrasting duo is beneficiary to the world depends on the intent of each person. Is it ego-fueled? For example, the stereotypical glad-handing politicians may only seek to gain power and the limelight. If this is the case, thoughtful counsel most likely won’t change the warrior person’s drive and methods. Sadly, the warrior may see the advisor’s view as ‘soft’ or inhibiting. If on the other hand, the politician has hopes of serving the greater good, a wise advisor could catalyze the individuals ideas and plans. An evil advisor could also abuse the privilege of having the politician’s ear and wreak havoc on their decision-making. So many scenarios. People! Just be good.
We may intellectually know that both boldness and introspection are equally important for creating change and development but it often doesn’t feel that way to advisors or behind the scenes people. Our less obvious and less ceremonious contributions are often overshadowed by the outward words and actions of the force people. This gets old and frustrating.
Introversion awareness is giving some of the glory back to the introspective tribe. Wouldn’t it be cool if we could re-institute the force and wisdom/dual reverence honored in the 1500s? I think it’s time.
Are you more Force or Wisdom? What is your partner or ideal partner? Do you think contrasting types works best?
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