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Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
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During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
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Evan H.
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
J.K.
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
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Avoidant Attachment in Adult Relationships: The Truth Behind Our Need to Be Alone

By | 2018-07-30T17:17:21+00:00 July 20th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash People with an avoidant attachment style grew up with caregivers who devalued or avoided emotional and physical closeness. Dependency was denied, leaving the child to figure out ways to self-soothe and regulate their own emotions. When the child reached out for closeness, they were met with disappointment or [...]

5 Best Reads of 2017: Relationships, Raising Kids and a Psychological Thriller

By | 2017-12-28T16:36:39+00:00 December 22nd, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I wanted to share the books that moved me this year. I set a goal to read 25 books by December 31st. I didn't make my goal. I read 20. I know some people can read a book in a few days. I've always been a good reader but a slow reader. I take my time [...]

What TV Producer Shonda Rhimes and I Have in Common: Relationship Trade-Offs

By | 2017-03-10T22:39:31+00:00 March 10th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I ran across TV Producer, screenwriter and author, Shonda Rhimes' quote a few weeks ago. I instantly felt a kinship. Granted, she's producing and writing for shows like Grey's Anatomy, Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder and I'm typing away at my first book and doing some personal coaching... but we both feel that [...]

Two Rituals That Calm Your Nervous System and Strengthen Your Relationship

By | 2017-01-26T13:18:06+00:00 January 27th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Dr. Stan Tatkin says we can and should be our partner's best anti-depressant and anti-anxiety agent. That seems like a tall order to me, but I have learned so much about attachment theory, couple bubbles and neurobiology from Dr. Tatkin, I'm willing to trust him. Dr. Tatkin is fond of saying partners are in each other's care. [...]

The Power of Reading : A Tribute to an Introvert’s Favorite Pastime

By | 2017-01-14T17:11:10+00:00 January 13th, 2017|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  For 2017, I plan to keep a list of all the books I read. I'm curious to see how many I finish in a year and what subjects I investigate. I've already added Wired for Love:How Understanding Your Partners Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship and The Luckiest [...]

Creating Win/Win Relationships by Growing Beyond Our Win/Lose Mentality

By | 2017-03-20T12:20:16+00:00 December 2nd, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I pay attention to coincidences. On the plane ride back from Tennessee (spent Thanksgiving there), I went back and forth between two books: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the personal management classic by Stephen Covey and Wired for Love, a look at neuroscience and its correlation with relationships by Dr. Stan Tatkin. Both books [...]

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