Are You Tired of Your Partner or Tired of You? Looking for a New Relationship or Looking for a New Self?

By |2015-09-22T16:06:01-05:00February 6th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

  Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become. — Author of Mating in Captivity and couples [...]

Permission to be Vulnerable = Permission to Awaken = Permission to Evolve

By |2015-09-22T16:07:00-05:00April 26th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I was seven years old when Elvis died.  My young, but romantically faceted inner-world turned this news into a melancholy fantasy where Elvis was my husband and I was in mourning.  Upstairs in my mother's bedroom , I stood before the mirror that hung above her dresser.  I pulled out a hairbrush and brushed my hair [...]

A Divorced Introvert: Evolving Not Dissolving Post-Breakup

By |2015-10-24T15:32:02-05:00March 29th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I didn't fall apart during or after the divorce like everyone expected. I was worried as hell about how it would affect our children, scared to death about taking care of everything myself (how would I find the energy?) but ultimately not afraid to be alone.  I knew I was on my way.  I was doing [...]

Becoming Real: What Happens When You've Been Through Some Sh*t

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00December 21st, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

English: pg 18 and 19 of The Velveteen Rabbit. (Photo credit: Wikipedia) It doesn't happen all at once, said the Skin Horse. You become. It takes a long time. ...Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in [...]

How a Sad Life Change Can Make You Extraordinary or Why Crying With Dan Fogelberg Is a Good Thing

By |2015-09-22T16:07:16-05:00January 6th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It's New Year's Eve 2011, the last time we gather to celebrate as a nuclear family. My soon to be ex-husband hangs out in the study.  The kids alternate between their  Lego creations and banal shows on the Disney Channel.  I scurry around the kitchen trying to put together a festive meal of appetizers.  I love [...]

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