Create a Narrative for Your Life and Move Out of Victimhood

By |2018-03-09T09:07:29-06:00March 9th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Photo by Naletu on Unsplash I am always looking for ways to create resilience, especially for highly sensitive people. I want us to thrive in the world both as individuals and in relationships. I've seen significant research that shows how we interpret our lives makes us less or more resilient. If we take [...]

How We Move from Insecure to Secure Relationships: 3 Stages

By |2018-01-09T18:57:36-06:00January 12th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo by Katherine Chase on Unsplash For those of us with attachment trauma or insecurity in our pasts, there is often a pattern we follow on our way to finding satisfying and secure relationships. If you don't remember what attachment trauma or an insecure relationship are, here are definitions. Secure attachment with a caregiver [...]

Introverts Seek Identity from the Inside Out

By |2017-07-01T17:14:27-05:00April 21st, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

In his post, Why Introverts Struggle to Figure Out Who They Are, Dr. A.J. Drenth says introverts often start from the inside when seeking our true identities. We reflect on who we are and what purpose we serve. We defer to our inner voice to guide us to our destiny. We introverts are aware of most of [...]

Fulfillment Eluding You in Relationships and Work? What to Do About That

By |2016-03-05T07:45:10-06:00March 4th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I live to get lost in books, websites, podcasts and research about personal development, relationships and optimal psychology. Other kids used to complain about having to sit through a lecture in school. I love lectures, listening and sitting. I move into the deep thinker's flow state when I read, do research and learn new things. My inner critic [...]

An Intuitive Introvert Redefines Typical: The New Normal Is Sensitive, Reflective and Recharged

By |2016-07-15T14:50:11-05:00February 26th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I don't know if I could make it as a 'normal' person. I sincerely don't think I could work a 40+ hour/week office job, raise kids, maintain my home, nurture a romantic relationship and keep up social ties. My nervous system begs for calm. I do everything so deeply and with such conscientiousness, I believe I would [...]

Stop Settling for Mediocrity: Jump from Comfortable to Incomparable

By |2016-03-16T09:15:34-05:00February 5th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I do this thing where I let myself stay in the shower after doing all the necessary sudsing and rinsing. I stay blissfully immersed in the hot water until the current song on the radio is over. Sometimes that gives me an extra three minutes of glorious steamy reflection time and sometimes it gives me 30 seconds. [...]

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