Sensitive Introverts and Confrontation: Owning Your Part and Creating Mature Relationships

By |2016-03-23T15:10:36-05:00January 15th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Calvin and Susie I've been exploring confrontation lately, both confrontation with others and self-confrontation. It seems to move forward in your career, relationships and personal development, you have to learn how to resolve conflict and own up to your contribution to it. It is only through a vast amount of experience and a lengthy and [...]

Loving and Growing as a Sensitive Soul In an Intimate Relationship

By |2015-10-17T12:39:30-05:00October 16th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Like most people, I want love in my life. I want someone to ask me how my day was, make me laugh at life and myself, help me get through overwhelming to do lists, travel with me to unexplored places, make love with me before dawn, hold me until I relax and allow me to cherish [...]

Disclosing Yourself Through Sex: How Revealing Are You?

By |2015-09-22T16:06:00-05:00March 27th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Source: The Gameoflove Blog Tumblr …if sexual intimacy has to do with disclosing yourself through sex, people who can let themselves be known have more potential for profound sexual experiences. — Dr. David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage How willing to be known are you? Does intense intimacy scare you? As someone who seeks out intense intimacy and [...]

Self-Soothing and Not Giving a F*ck : Managing Your Own Anxiety Within a Relationship

By |2019-10-01T16:09:53-05:00March 13th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I had an epiphany the other day. If I don't need the kids or my partner to validate me or help with my worries, then we can all relax. If I can manage my own emotions and self-soothe, then we are all free. If I can stabilize myself, center myself, then it won't bother me if [...]

How to Handle the Fluctuations in Emotional Security and Closeness Within a Relationship

By |2015-10-21T14:18:49-05:00February 13th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

There is an ebb and flow of closeness in relationships. The amount of emotional connection and distance fluctuates. I first noticed this with a crush I had on someone  years ago. I remember feeling anxious when our normally quite deep and personal conversations changed for a week or two into more casual surface interactions. There was always [...]

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