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I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB

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What TV Producer Shonda Rhimes and I Have in Common: Relationship Trade-Offs

By | 2017-03-10T22:39:31+00:00 March 10th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I ran across TV Producer, screenwriter and author, Shonda Rhimes' quote a few weeks ago. I instantly felt a kinship. Granted, she's producing and writing for shows like Grey's Anatomy, Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder and I'm typing away at my first book and doing some personal coaching... but we both feel that [...]

How’s Your Self-Discipline? How’s Your Children’s? Why It Matters

By | 2017-03-03T15:04:57+00:00 March 3rd, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

Old days   New days According to David Brooks in “The Road to Character”, we become more disciplined, considerate and loving through a thousand small acts of self-control, sharing, service, friendship and refined enjoyment. Brooks talks about making disciplined, caring choices that create entrenched positive neural pathways. The two phrases that stuck [...]

Healing Emotional Neglect In the Age of Conditional Love

By | 2017-02-16T16:22:26+00:00 February 17th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Dr. Jonice Webb describes nurturance as a combination of love, care and help. Dr. Webb is the author of a book titled, "Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect". It is about what was left out of our childhood versus what happened, and how it affects our adult relationships. I highly recommend the book. I [...]

We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?

By | 2016-11-18T14:39:11+00:00 November 18th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I walked down the hallway of a local elementary school. The smell of school lunches, pencils and tempera paint embedded the walls and low-pile carpet. As I looked for my assigned first-grade classroom, a boy (4th grade maybe) made eye-contact with me, smiled and said, "Hi, how are you today?" I resisted the urge to look behind me [...]

Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion

By | 2017-02-03T10:45:45+00:00 April 15th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

A few years ago while engaging in the online dating scene, one intriguing man —a big guy with a blue-collar job and an intellectual mind— brought the term avoidant attachment style to my attention. He and I had one or two dates and several emails filled with interesting and meaningful conversation. We both were huge readers fascinated by personal [...]

Do You Rescue or Empower People? How to be Most Helpful

By | 2015-12-11T15:07:44+00:00 December 11th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I have a tendency to rescue people. I want to protect them from negativity and emotional hurt. As a sensitive person, it is easy for me to empathize with anyone falling victim to sarcasm or cutting remarks. If I perceive someone's light being dimmed or snuffed out, my claws come out and Mama Bear arrives. I know a certain [...]

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