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You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
J.K.

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
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How Losing Our Joy Affects Our Children: Ways to Get Back to Good

By | 2017-08-20T15:15:57-05:00 August 18th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

  Because my happiness was based on external measures—on tasks being completed, plans running accordingly, goals being met, hairs being in place—I was continually disappointed … upset … impatient … and stressed. In the process of making my own life miserable, I’d funneled my unhappiness straight into my daughter’s once joyful heart and spirit. Her pain [...]

An Intuitive Introvert Redefines Typical: The New Normal Is Sensitive, Reflective and Recharged

By | 2016-07-15T14:50:11-05:00 February 26th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I don't know if I could make it as a 'normal' person. I sincerely don't think I could work a 40+ hour/week office job, raise kids, maintain my home, nurture a romantic relationship and keep up social ties. My nervous system begs for calm. I do everything so deeply and with such conscientiousness, I believe I would [...]

Permission to be Introverted, Sensitive and Different:Thanks to Adele, Jason Mraz and a Non-Mainstream Upbringing

By | 2017-01-18T15:10:30-05:00 December 18th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Adele I sit watching Adele Live in New York City. I should be working but I can't resist the chance to get lost in her voice and presence. The British singer's return after a four-year absence, feels like a much-needed drink for the authentically and artistically thirsty. I watch and listen as the curtain goes up and she [...]

More Than a Mom-Droid:Letting Children See Your Soul

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:13-05:00 March 30th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

It's important to me that my kids realize I am a woman with depth and not just a Mom-droid. I do my best to remind them of my humanity by weaving stories of my childhood with their present-day preoccupations. I've told them how I once lived and dreamed all on my own in Chicago. They've seen [...]

A Slightly Desperate Plea For Solitude and a Room of One's Own

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:13-05:00 March 14th, 2012|Categories: Guest Posts|Tags: , , , , |

Space2live is published on elephant journal again!  Yippee!!  Elephant journal's mindful living focus aligns perfectly with Space2live's belief in slowing down and paying attention for personal evolution. A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction.                                                                        ~ Virginia Woolf It would be so lovely if you would read, [...]

Space 2 Hide: Why Introverts Retreat

By | 2017-09-30T08:23:26-05:00 February 24th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

I escape to personal retreats for three reasons: 1.  To avoid being engulfed by the needs and desires of my house, family and friends. I often feel overcome by appliance repairs, school projects, doctor’s appointments and busy-ness.  I take on my family and friend's pain or disappointment.  I hyper-feel their need for my attention.  If I don’t hide, I’m [...]