Covid’s Personal Space Crunch

By |2021-01-15T16:36:19-06:00January 8th, 2021|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Introverts, highly sensitive people and those with avoidant attachment styles love personal space. We feel depleted, anxious and even irritated without it. I miss people Covid 19 has left most of us craving time to ourselves, craving other's company or both. I wrote previously about how the pandemic has shown me how much I truly do [...]

The Midlife Triad

By |2020-07-29T13:30:21-05:00July 31st, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  ...the most important things in life were love, peace of mind, and service to others, a triad that I believe characterizes the wisdom of the middle-aged woman, and which I call the midlife values triad. — Joan Borysenko Ph.D In Dr. Borysenko's book, A Woman's Book of Life: The Biology, Psychology and Spirituality of the [...]

500th Post!! When Something Changes Your Life’s Course

By |2020-05-07T10:19:06-05:00May 8th, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

This is it folks, my 500th post! Nine years of weekly posts. I'm patting myself on the back for sticking with it and showing up every Friday. The website supports my coaching, book sales and online courses, but mostly the writing has been my expressive outlet, my small contribution to the world and my connection to [...]

Loss of Autonomy: How One of Our Greatest Fears Affects Relationships

By |2020-03-06T16:10:48-06:00March 6th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

The things we fear losing the most: autonomy, identity and a positive future. If you can help someone maintain their autonomy, identity and future, they will feel safer and more willing to collaborate.

Feeling Safe Enough to Improvise

By |2020-02-27T16:58:22-06:00February 28th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

"Leon Fleisher, regarded as one of the great classical pianists of the twentieth century, told the coauthor of his 2010 memoir that his 'greatest wish' was to be able to improvise. But despite a lifetime of masterful interpretation of notes on the page, he said, 'I can't improvise at all.' " — David Epstein, Range: Why [...]

Action Is Growth for the Introspective

By |2020-02-20T17:04:35-06:00February 21st, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

If there is no wind, row. Latin proverb I found this proverb on my meditation app, Insight Timer. Since my children all row crew, it seemed especially apropos. I also believe it aligns with my favorite saying, "Action dissolves fear". The last few years, I have pushed myself to be an action-taker. Hard to reflect when [...]

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