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During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan

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We Are Quiet and We’re OK: Don’t Worry or Try to Change Us, Listening and Thinking Are Our Pleasure

By | 2016-10-29T14:40:12+00:00 July 10th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I've been on vacation this week. Six days surrounded by six other people, every day. It has been wonderful and relaxing overall but I have made some introvert observations. If you are quiet people do not hesitate to point it out. They ask why you are so quiet and if you are OK. If you talk [...]

Kissing, Creativity and Solitude: An Introvert Finds a State of Flow in Summer's Free for All

By | 2015-09-22T16:05:58+00:00 June 26th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It's summer. My days are chopped up and writing time is elusive. My children are home and my actions are more reactive than self-directed. I miss writing and self-direction. My man has been traveling, entertaining and hosting his family. Our cozy routine of quality time and intimate intimacy has been deconstructed. I miss quality intimacy. Kissing creativity goodbye I [...]

Introvert Parenting Guide: Could You Just Play by Yourself Like I Used To?

By | 2015-10-22T15:23:05+00:00 December 12th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

  Tree lights and Michael Buble's Christmas CD keep me company in the living room as I thumb through catalogs and read nutrition articles. Jagged guitar riffs seep up through the floor from the basement where my oldest son practices on his new Les Paul. My middle son is putting together a Dollar Store jigsaw puzzle on the [...]

You Don't Have a Bubbly Personality? You're not a High Energy Mom? You're Still Worth Knowing

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:09+00:00 July 11th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Yeah, this is never going to be me. I've never been the girl who laughs openly and raucously. I don't talk loudly so the whole crowd can hear or have any delusions about being the life of the party. I can't fake enthusiasm. I'm not known for doling out exuberant praise. I don't take up a lot [...]

Slumber Parties and Kryptonite: Simple Ways to Explain Introversion to Children

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:18+00:00 August 30th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

My nine-year old daughter is hurt because I don't want her by my side every second of the day. She is happiest interacting with others. My thirteen year old son doesn't understand the word energy when I tell him I get energy from solitude. He asks if I mean excitement or physical energy. For the last few [...]

I’m Sorry I Hurt You in Order to Save Myself: What Introverts Feel but Don’t Always Say

By | 2016-04-17T18:31:22+00:00 August 23rd, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

He tentatively reaches across the bed with a warm gentle hand and I ... recoil. I just need a few more delicious moments of morning mind.  I need that gauzy, thought- weaving space of nourishing idea play where I breathe fully and smile involuntarily. I need that space where I belong solely to myself. He rolls [...]