Don’t Wait for Others to Choose You: Find Introverted Intuitive Communities That Feel Like Home

Don’t Wait for Others to Choose You: Find Introverted Intuitive Communities That Feel Like Home

When my relationship ended in April, I felt at loose ends. The routines, love and companionship I’d enjoyed over the previous year and a half, went away. I spent a dark night or two or six wondering what to do with myself, how much I could lean on my friends and if I could get away to visit […]

Beyond Fun, Sex and Coffee : Moving Past Dating and Mastering Mature Relationships

Beyond Fun, Sex and Coffee : Moving Past Dating and Mastering Mature Relationships

Doing fun things together isn’t enough for me to feel connected. Being good-looking doesn’t mean we’ll have a meaningful relationship. Having a lot of money doesn’t mean I’ll want to grow with you. In the dating world, there’s emphasis on who your partner is and what you’ll do together. There’s a smaller, almost non-existent, emphasis on […]

Personal Update: Introversion and Arm’s – Length Relationships

Personal Update: Introversion and Arm’s – Length Relationships

As an introvert who gets overwhelmed by too much activity and gabbing, it can be difficult to keep tabs on all of my loved ones. It’s not that I don’t want to, but my energy and patience fail me. It feels self-protective to let calls go to voicemail so I can finish work or get to […]

Empowering the Sensitive Introvert : Moving from Reactionary to Creative

Empowering the Sensitive Introvert : Moving from Reactionary to Creative

As a sensitive introvert, do you feel like your sensitivity and tenuous energy supplies run your life? I feel they do sometimes, but I’ve found ways to feel stronger, like I can create a healthy meaningful life. As an introvert, I process stimuli deeply. My brain chemistry and functioning affect how I take in the world. There is a bottleneck […]

Dear Introvert, Your Inner World Is Not All That : Boosting Self-Esteem in the Outer World

Dear Introvert, Your Inner World Is Not All That : Boosting Self-Esteem in the Outer World

This spring I’ve been focused on working on the outside of my house. There are maintenance issues inside as well, but the big projects are happening outside. I had the deck re-stained. I’m having the shake re-painted and we’re cleaning up the landscaping. This outside works runs parallel with my new views on living and loving. […]

Do Sensitive People Need Extra Kind and Positive Relationships?

Do Sensitive People Need Extra Kind and Positive Relationships?

Over the last few weeks I’ve been paying attention to how I feel. I’ve noticed where and with whom I’m at ease, fully myself and content. As much as I miss the companionship of my man, I’ve noticed an upbeat change in me since we broke up. I think it’s the ability to fully be myself again. […]