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Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo

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Introverts, Energy and Love: The Best of Space2live 2014

By | 2015-10-23T20:12:40+00:00 January 2nd, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , |

What did I learn about relationships this year? What did I learn about introversion? Relationship revelation Looking for what you want can cause you to miss out on what you need. I had a complicated list of wants and expectations for potential partners. I would meet men who seemed to have many of these qualities but eventually [...]

How to Keep Emotions in Check and Create Stable Sensual Relationships: The Importance of a Secret Garden

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:04+00:00 October 24th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I have been called stable by two different men recently. It's obvious they find stability highly desirable. I find the comment interesting because I don't necessarily consider myself the stable type. I am by no means unstable but I think stable people are consistent, reserved, emotionally controlled and not all that flavorful. I actually see myself as deeply feeling, easily moved, [...]

Building Beautiful Introvert / Extrovert Relationships

By | 2015-10-19T11:49:59+00:00 March 7th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I want there to be a place in the world where people can engage in one another’s differences in a way that is redemptive, full of hope and possibility. Not this 'In order to love you, I must make you something else'. That’s what domination is all about, that in order to be close to you, [...]

Think You're Wise? Definition of Wisdom from Deepak Chopra and a Man Named Snake

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:14+00:00 January 17th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

He sits on a bench down by the lake and offers wisdom for 25 cents. He is not getting rich off this undertaking but men's coach and pioneer of The Mankind Project, Craig Bloomstrand (aka Snake), enjoys connecting with others. His definition of wisdom? Learning from experience and using that knowledge to shape the future for the [...]

Selling Out Your Introversion: Extroverting Doesn't Feel Like Home

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:18+00:00 September 20th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: , , |

One hour before the open house my son emptied all the trash and hid the dirty laundry in the garage cupboard.  My daughter cleaned all the glass and mirrors with Windex and made sure all the toilets were flushed (boys). I wiped down counters, swept floors and put out new sofa pillows and bathroom towels. I also [...]

Are Introverts Givers or Takers? Does Managing Our Energy Limit Our Generosity ?

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:59+00:00 May 17th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Are you a giver or a taker? Deeply think about this. Do you often give to others without an agenda for reciprocation? Or do you  make sure you are the winner in every transaction? Or are you a matcher, someone who gives as much as they get and maintains equanimity in their interactions? As I read [...]