Create a Narrative for Your Life and Move Out of Victimhood

By |2018-03-09T09:07:29-06:00March 9th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Photo by Naletu on Unsplash I am always looking for ways to create resilience, especially for highly sensitive people. I want us to thrive in the world both as individuals and in relationships. I've seen significant research that shows how we interpret our lives makes us less or more resilient. If we take [...]

The Quiet Rise of Introverts is Available Now!

By |2017-10-04T13:33:54-05:00October 4th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Today is a dream come true for me. I wrote a book and it is available now on all book buying outlets. I'm really excited but also feeling the blues from all the recent tragedies. I know many around the world feel low. Our sensitive hearts, minds and bodies pick up on all the fear, hate [...]

Is It Difficult for You to Show Emotions and Connect? The Trouble with Over Controlling Our Reactions

By |2018-10-28T12:45:33-05:00September 22nd, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I've written a lot about the overwhelming emotions of the highly sensitive and empathetic. I've talked about crying in the bathroom at work and suffering from emotional exhaustion. Most of the time, emotions are just below the surface or spilling out all over the place for this introvert, but some people keep their emotions totally under [...]

Knowing When It’s Time to See a Therapist

By |2018-09-22T16:33:22-05:00June 23rd, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I did it. I had my first personal therapy session this week. I've done marriage counseling. I've done group therapy with my writing friends. But prior to this, I've never done therapy just for me. I thought I could heal myself or get support from friends, family or a partner. Yes, the personal and relationship coach, [...]

Worried About Being ‘Too Much’ in a Relationship: High Sensitivity and the Relational Paradox

By |2016-10-23T20:11:17-05:00October 21st, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Relational paradox: When convinced a relationship won't tolerate who you really are, you leave a part of you out of that relationship. When I read the description of a relational paradox in Dr. Amy Banks' book, Wired for Connection:The Surprising Link Between Brain Science and Strong, Healthy Relationships, a lightbulb went on in my head. The [...]

Dear Introvert, Your Inner World Is Not All That : Boosting Self-Esteem in the Outer World

By |2017-02-23T14:58:47-06:00June 10th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

This spring I've been focused on working on the outside of my house. There are maintenance issues inside as well, but the big projects are happening outside. I had the deck re-stained. I'm having the shake re-painted and we're cleaning up the landscaping. This outside works runs parallel with my new views on living and loving. I [...]

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