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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB

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Sensuality, Sex, Solitude and Sensitivity: An Introvert’s Recipe for Love and Pleasure

By | 2015-10-20T10:00:57+00:00 March 21st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

He slips his arms around my waist and nuzzles my neck from behind. The timber of his voice and  scratchiness of his unshaven face send a sensation cascading through my body. My knees go weak as I sauté at the stove. Chris Isaak sings on the radio, his hauntingly playful voice mingling with the fragrance of [...]

All Day Long Wearing a Mask of False Bravado: Stop Hiding Your Sensitive Nature and Thrive

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:57+00:00 July 10th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I learned early that blushing, slow responses and tentative answers would always be out-shined and outgunned by the gregarious and confident.  I learned to compensate for my lack of brashness by pleasing others and graciously cooperating. As a teen, I pretended to not be disappointed when the sleepover for two became a slumber party for six. I [...]

Energy Envy and an Introvert Meltdown Curtailed:The Power of Having Your Sensitivity Valued

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:00+00:00 April 12th, 2013|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I had a little meltdown today.  It had to do with old baggage about competition and insecurity.  I should have known it was coming.  I've been going 100 mph lately.  The primary reason: I'm prepping my house for sale.  Lots of organizing, cleaning, mess avoiding and workmen swarming. I'm stressed about timing  and frustrated because my [...]

When Parenting Overwhelms:Tough Days as an Introverted Parent

By | 2015-10-23T20:27:29+00:00 January 27th, 2012|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Most of my introvert friends are childless or have one child.  They seemed to have instinctively known their child-rearing capabilities and stopped while they were ahead.  I on the other hand barreled through every red flag that warned me.  I overlooked the need for long spans of time to myself.  I didn't notice how much I [...]

4 Steps to Love and Independence

By | 2016-01-01T23:40:53+00:00 November 4th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Self-love brings to mind: me time, positive affirmations, massage therapy and um masturbation. Guess what?  There's way more to it than that. We all know we need to love ourselves before dragging someone else into the mix, yet time and time again couples break up and within weeks one or both of them is in a serious relationship [...]

Thoughts for the Thoughtful

By | 2015-10-20T07:10:34+00:00 April 27th, 2011|Categories: Guest Posts, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , |

Do you have a desire to recreate your life?  Are you stumbling over obstacles like fear and inertia?  The newsletter Thoughts for the Thoughtful from the Highly Sensitive Person Publishing Company addresses those issues and provides gentle, mindful ways to move forward.  **You may recognize the author of this month’s guest post as well.:)  I wrote [...]

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