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Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
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your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
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During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
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me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
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Evan H.
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
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Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
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Sensation Seeking Badass: The Sexy Side of Being a Sensitive Introvert

By | 2018-06-10T14:43:24-05:00 August 1st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Sensuality, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I'm reading Anthony Bourdain's book, Kitchen Confidential, and finding myself within the pages. For those of you who don't know anything about Bourdain, he is a traveling TV star, author and chef who describes his young self as a thrill-seeking pleasure hungry sensualist. He rose to international recognition as the author of the book (Kitchen Confidential) that exposed the [...]

Where’d My Energy Go? 12 Causes of Over-Arousal for the Introvert and/or Highly Sensitive Person

By | 2015-10-21T14:02:50-05:00 July 4th, 2014|Categories: Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: , , , , , , |

As an introvert and sensitive person, I am vigilantly mindful of my energy and where it slips to, but some days even I don't know why I feel so drained. My UK writer friend, Andy Mort of SheepDressedLikeWolves.com, sent me this post about discovering his own sensitivity and subsequently figuring out some of the subtle and not [...]

Sensuality, Sex, Solitude and Sensitivity: An Introvert’s Recipe for Love and Pleasure

By | 2015-10-20T10:00:57-05:00 March 21st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

He slips his arms around my waist and nuzzles my neck from behind. The timber of his voice and  scratchiness of his unshaven face send a sensation cascading through my body. My knees go weak as I sauté at the stove. Chris Isaak sings on the radio, his hauntingly playful voice mingling with the fragrance of [...]

All Day Long Wearing a Mask of False Bravado: Stop Hiding Your Sensitive Nature and Thrive

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:57-05:00 July 10th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I learned early that blushing, slow responses and tentative answers would always be out-shined and outgunned by the gregarious and confident.  I learned to compensate for my lack of brashness by pleasing others and graciously cooperating. As a teen, I pretended to not be disappointed when the sleepover for two became a slumber party for six. I [...]

Energy Envy and an Introvert Meltdown Curtailed:The Power of Having Your Sensitivity Valued

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:00-05:00 April 12th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I had a little meltdown today.  It had to do with old baggage about competition and insecurity.  I should have known it was coming.  I've been going 100 mph lately.  The primary reason: I'm prepping my house for sale.  Lots of organizing, cleaning, mess avoiding and workmen swarming. I'm stressed about timing  and frustrated because my [...]

When Parenting Overwhelms:Tough Days as an Introverted Parent

By | 2015-10-23T20:27:29-05:00 January 27th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Most of my introvert friends are childless or have one child.  They seemed to have instinctively known their child-rearing capabilities and stopped while they were ahead.  I on the other hand barreled through every red flag that warned me.  I overlooked the need for long spans of time to myself.  I didn't notice how much I [...]