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Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms

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Don’t Wait for Others to Choose You: Find Introverted Intuitive Communities That Feel Like Home

By | 2016-07-26T09:00:06-05:00 July 29th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

When my relationship ended in April, I felt at loose ends. The routines, love and companionship I'd enjoyed over the previous year and a half, went away. I spent a dark night or two or six wondering what to do with myself, how much I could lean on my friends and if I could get away to visit family. [...]

Do Sensitive People Need Extra Kind and Positive Relationships?

By | 2016-05-20T12:14:15-05:00 May 20th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Over the last few weeks I've been paying attention to how I feel. I've noticed where and with whom I'm at ease, fully myself and content. As much as I miss the companionship of my man, I've noticed an upbeat change in me since we broke up. I think it's the ability to fully be myself again. I'm [...]

Introvert Returns to Herself : The Beauty of Relating and Feeling Known

By | 2016-10-20T18:24:39-05:00 May 6th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

In my week of self-nurturing and post-mortem relationship analysis, I figured out I'd strayed from my genuine self in the last year. One observation that surfaced right away was that I hadn't bought or been lost in music for over a year. Like a drowning woman seeking air above the waves, over the last week, I sought music, musicians, stories [...]

Introvert Prefers a Sense of Ease to a Sense of Urgency: Making Space for Creativity, Connecting and Authenticity

By | 2015-10-02T20:02:48-05:00 October 2nd, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo credit to Rona Keller Half of the real problem of exhaustion comes from distraction. The problem is not being too tired. The problem is having a divided mind. — James L. Walpole, You're Not Too Tired to Create. You're Too Distracted. My mind has been divided lately. Creating and (softly) promoting the new website [...]

Permission to be Vulnerable = Permission to Awaken = Permission to Evolve

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:00-05:00 April 26th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I was seven years old when Elvis died.  My young, but romantically faceted inner-world turned this news into a melancholy fantasy where Elvis was my husband and I was in mourning.  Upstairs in my mother's bedroom , I stood before the mirror that hung above her dresser.  I pulled out a hairbrush and brushed my hair [...]

Need Energy? How to Get It Without Caffeine or Extra Sleep

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:19-05:00 September 16th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: , , , , , |

I entered the ice-blue and transparent Apple store.  The openness and clean lines felt more refreshing than cold. There were plenty of i-products to play with, each subtly leashed to a simple table and pleasingly surrounded by free space.  I glanced around and noticed the store was busy.  At 6pm the afterwork crowd was present but speaking in pleasant, [...]