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Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko

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Spring Break Post: Family Time in Los Angeles

Hi Everyone!

I decided to sneak in a post for this week even though we’re on vacation. This is going to be an informal one. I’m in LA with my kids, my sister and her family. Mark, my fiance (see last week’s post), is not with us, but will be with us for all future family vacations. 🙂

It’s been a busy week of activities here on the West Coast. We are staying in Pacific Palisades and have spent a lot of time in Santa Monica. What a gorgeous area! We are staying in a quirky but charming artist’s home in the hills. There is mystical artwork everywhere. I think I would get in trouble for posting pictures of the artwork so you’ll have to imagine lots of angels, fairies, moonlight and psychedelic colors.

Spacex Headquarters

We’ve been to Spacex’s headquarters, Venice Beach, the Santa Monica Pier, the aquarium in Long Beach, The Getty Center, Hollywood and Griffith Observatory. We have the science museum, an Italian food truck and a studio tour on tap for today. We head home tomorrow.

Santa Monica

Our group is a mix of introverts and extroverts. I would have liked a little more downtime but there are eight of us and we each want to do something different. I’ve spent a lot of time driving, which around LA is tricky and somewhat stressful. My favorite parts of the trip have been eating meals together, including a beautiful sunny Easter dinner we ate outside.

One thing I observed

I realized my sons connect by doing things with others and sharing information. Sharing experiences can connect people but if there is no real eye contact or emotional expression, it feels like all outflow and no inflow to me. This leaves me feeling a little empty and disconnected. I need to know more about what’s going on on the inside to feel nourished. I need warm physical touch too. It’s hard for me to keep doing and doing without getting filled up, yet I desperately want to connect with my important people.

Me in the garden at Getty Center.

There’s no place like home

While we were away it snowed many inches in Minnesota. I do not want to go back to cold and snow but I am looking forward to being with Mark and being home.

 

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