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Scientifically Verified Benefits of Alone Time for Introverts

Hello Friends! I am taking a break up north with family this week. Please enjoy this guest post on introversion from Sally Collins. I have found the points mentioned below to be true, have you? 

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Anywhere from a quarter to a half of the world are introverts, yet we seem to live in a society where these personality types are undervalued. To be happy is to be social, outgoing and active, whereas to spend time alone is seen as a sign of fear or sadness. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Introverted minds are wired to thrive in moments of isolation and there is no shame in wanting to be alone for a while. Don’t cut yourself off from friends and family completely, but if they ask why you like being alone so much, you can bring up these scientific studies on the benefits of alone time.

Dopamine vs. Acetylcholine

The neuroscience of different personality types is still new, but patterns are starting to emerge about the neurochemical balances of extroverts versus introverts. Both personality types will experience a hit of dopamine during social situations, but extroverts are more sensitive to this reward. That means that they react more strongly and receive more pleasure from dopamine hits.

Introverts, conversely, are more sensitive to acetylcholine. This neurotransmitter is released when a person looks inwards to their own thoughts and feelings. This means that in order to achieve the same level of happiness, introverts need more time alone with their thoughts and less time socializing.


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A Space for Productivity and Creativity

Everyone prefers a different work environment. Extroverts tend to benefit from working in a team or at least with some background noise. It offers mental stimulation that gets the gears going in their brain, heightening productivity. However, research suggests that introverts are more productive among natural sounds such as by an outdoor water fountain or near birds in a quiet park.

These natural noises are optimal for creating a calm and peaceful sanctuary. Everyone can benefit from a tranquil environment, but for introverts it seems to particularly boost creative thinking and work rate. Don’t be afraid to spend more time alone if you feel that it helps you to get more done.

The Introverted Way

The science of introversion isn’t an exact one, but it seems there are clearly aspects of brain processes that make introverts unique. Studies suggest that they are less likely to feel the effects of dopamine, instead reacting more strongly to acetylcholine. If you are on the introverted side of the spectrum, you may find that alone time also allows you to be creative and productive. Take advantage of this by creating a sanctuary where you can be comfortable in your own company.

Sally Collins is a professional freelance writer with many years experience across many different areas. She made the move to freelancing from a stressful corporate job and loves the work-life balance it offers her. When not at work, Sally enjoys reading, hiking, spending time with her family and travelling as much as possible.

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  1. Michael August 17, 2018 at 3:44 pm - Reply

    A quote from Picasso that I like is, “Without solitude, no great work is possible.” Not everyone feels compelled to do great work, in whatever field. If we are — and I am — then solitude is critical. Interruptions … interrupt my flow. The longer I’m in my flow — in solitude — the more I create, the more that comes to me. It cannot, and does not, happen in groups and crowds, or one on one for that matter.

    Not everyone likes or loves solitude. I, for one, crave it. It’s enjoyable to be with certain people, but not most. It’s just about always enjoyable to have solitude.

    • Brenda Knowles August 22, 2018 at 11:45 am - Reply

      I agree with you and Picasso. Great work often requires a period of solitude. I just heard someone say we have to make space for intuition and creativity. It does not arise in a harried atmosphere. Intuition and creativity can’t be forced but space and slowing down beckon it. 🙂

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