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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live

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The Quiet Rise of Introverts is Available Now!

Today is a dream come true for me. I wrote a book and it is available now on all book buying outlets. I’m really excited but also feeling the blues from all the recent tragedies. I know many around the world feel low. Our sensitive hearts, minds and bodies pick up on all the fear, hate and sorrow.

I thought about how to tastefully make my announcement while respecting others’ losses and sadness. A timely message crossed my path. It was this quote (supposedly) from Robert Downey Jr., You need to know what to do when the sun stops shining. 

It’s true. In our day-to-day lives and in our relationships we have to know what to do when things fall apart. If sadness, fear and hopelessness engulf us, we stop living. I’ve been in that place and will experience those feelings again, I’m sure.

We have to grieve. We have to process, but eventually we have to make our own sunshine and make sunshine for others, which coincidentally makes more light for us.

When disasters happen, many, many good people show up to help. This is the bright spot in the dark situation.

When I get nervous about having my book out in the world for everyone to judge, I think about the reason I wrote it in the first place, to help people. My book is not perfect. I’ve already found mistakes in the hard copy… But I wrote it with good intentions and my heart is in it.

The Quiet Rise is designed to foster peace within ourselves and comfort in relationships.

If you want to learn more about The Quiet Rise of Introverts click here.




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Big Thank You

I want to thank all of you for sharing with me over the years and for being an inspiration for The Quiet Rise of Introverts. You gave me a home for my thoughts and feelings. I hope to give you a home for yours. I also want to thank my family. They are mentioned a lot in the book, particularly my sister, dad, stepmom, mom and ex-husband. They served as inspiration and teachers. I had an incredible group of supporters while writing The Quiet Rise: Hugo Villabona, my editor from Mango Publishing; Michelle Lewy and Hannah Paulsen my marketing team from Mango; my writing group sisters Roxanne, Jennifer, Tina and Eleanor; my former writing coach Lauren Sapala, my dear friends Debbi and Kimber and my boyfriend Mark. All of the above and probably some I’ve regrettably forgotten, gave me the energy and courage to get the book written.

A friend and reader sent me this picture. Looks like a nice way to spend the evening.












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  1. Connie kurth October 4, 2017 at 5:10 pm - Reply

    To see what you’ve always wanted come true is fantastic! Congratulations! I understand your comment of putting your book out there for criticism but it’s what we must do!! So proud of you. My father was an author as well. His books are in the library of Congress in Washington DC. Love you, connie k.

    • Brenda Knowles October 7, 2017 at 3:41 pm - Reply

      Thank you Connie! You’ve been on this creative trek with me for years and years. I so appreciate you and your inspiration. That’s so cool your dad was an author!! I’d love to hear more sometime. Love you too sweet lady.

  2. David Kanigan October 4, 2017 at 4:22 pm - Reply

    Congratulations Brenda. Amazing accomplishment.

    • Brenda Knowles October 7, 2017 at 3:38 pm - Reply

      Thank you David! I feel like I’ve been reading and writing with you from the beginning of my writing journey. Nice to be on the path together.

  3. Julie Bond Genovese October 4, 2017 at 3:13 pm - Reply

    P.S. I love your choice of Robert Downey Jr’s quote! It’s soOOooo perfect for your book, AND these times, but also for a post I’m working on, so I’ve hijacked it 🙂 THANK YOU!

    • Brenda Knowles October 7, 2017 at 3:39 pm - Reply

      Isn’t that a good one?! Use it with zest! I know you will! 🙂

  4. Julie Bond Genovese October 4, 2017 at 2:37 pm - Reply

    WOOHOO Brenda! YOU DID IT! It is indeed a confusing/difficult time to make such a happy announcement! But you did it with such grace and compassion, as always! You are a class act sistah, and your light is greatly needed and appreciated. Rawk on, write on and shine on! xoxoxoxoxo

    • Brenda Knowles October 4, 2017 at 2:57 pm - Reply

      Thank you Julie! You are the queen of grace, compassion, inspiration, kindness and light!

  5. Sereia October 4, 2017 at 2:14 pm - Reply

    congratulations! that’s awesome! i really enjoy your blog, and am sure that your book is equally amazing!

    • Brenda Knowles October 4, 2017 at 2:55 pm - Reply

      Thank you Sereia!

  6. michaelrbuley October 4, 2017 at 1:36 pm - Reply

    Have it on my Kindle, and am planning to read this weekend!

    Congratulations, Brenda Knowles!


    • Brenda Knowles October 4, 2017 at 2:54 pm - Reply

      Thank you Michael!

  7. October 4, 2017 at 1:28 pm - Reply

    Congratulations Brenda!!! I’m reading it now and it’s AMAZING.

    • Brenda Knowles October 4, 2017 at 2:54 pm - Reply

      Thank you Lauren for many reasons! You’ve helped so much. I would love to get your feedback privately.

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