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I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
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The Power of Reading : A Tribute to an Introvert’s Favorite Pastime


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For 2017, I plan to keep a list of all the books I read. I’m curious to see how many I finish in a year and what subjects I investigate. I’ve already added Wired for Love:How Understanding Your Partners Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship and The Luckiest Girl Alive. Admittedly, I started both of them in 2016, but it feels good to start strong with my list. Wired for Love is non-fiction and The Luckiest Girl Alive is fiction. Both will keep you up late at night. Wired for Love gave me game-changing information to apply to my love life. Luckiest Girl, is pure edgy, even slightly disturbing, entertainment.

My Grandpa Knowles was an avid reader. I can picture him sitting in his armchair with the gold striped upholstery, legs crossed, glasses on, cocktail on end table, book in lap. Between books and crossword puzzles, Grandpa’s brain never dulled. He was sharp as a tack, living on his own right up until the end. The health benefits of keeping your brain agile are well documented. He used to talk about Mexico all the time. He talked about the women, music and food. Have you ever tried menudo Bren? It’s a Mexican soup made with tripe. What’s tripe, you ask? Cow’s stomach. Grandpa always wanted to go to Mexico. To my knowledge, he never went. Books and the local Mexican restaurant took him there.

Because of reading, my vocabulary is decent. I’ve always kept a dictionary or Google close at hand when I read to look up unfamiliar words, like tripe.

Over the years, I’ve collected a number of authors I consider friends, mentors and therapists, in my mind. Authors like, Brenda Ueland (writing), Marti Olsen Laney (introversion) and Stan Tatkin (forming secure relationships) changed the course of my life. I’m not joking. They each introduced me to an aspect of myself I hadn’t yet discovered and gave me the inspiration and courage to invest in its development.

Yes, reading inspires. This post was inspired by someone else’s article on the powers of reading. The article on the powers of reading was not well written, but the message rang true and ultimately moved me to write this little post  you are now reading.:)

I once read that reading and literature teach us about humanity. I agree. Through reading we get in other people’s heads and hearts. We get to learn what it’s like to live on the other side of the world or in a totally different century. We gain perspective and empathy. Two qualities I highly value.

I read Tim Ferriss’s book, The 4-Hour Work Week years ago. In it, he said he only reads fiction before bed to help turn his work/thinking brain off. He likes to escape into other people’s stories and not think about his. Because of his written words, I started reading fiction again after a seven-year stint of pure non-fiction.

One of my favorite aspects of my jobs —personal coaching and writing — is the requirement to read and do research. I enter flow mode when sitting with my personal development and relationship books, highlighting the heck out of them, soaking up insight. Intoxicating. I can’t believe I managed to work my love of reading into a career I get paid to do!

Most nights, right before bed, I read. Fiction. Nothing, well almost nothing, relaxes me more than reading. If I wake up in the middle of the night, mind buzzing, I reach for one of the three or four books on my nightstand. In these instances, I may read non-fiction, figuring I’m getting ahead with my work research. 🙂 Usually, reading eases me back to sleep. It eases me back to calm.


What could you write a love letter to? What makes your world go ’round? How does reading light up your world?




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  1. Susan January 16, 2017 at 2:22 pm - Reply

    I’m now in my 11th year of keeping a list of everything I read during the year. It’s helpful not only to make sure I don’t re-read something accidentally (I frequently re-read on purpose!) but it also is like a journal, telling me what I was interested in and where I spent my time. It’s a great habit and I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

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