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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Indepthwoman
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

Mom M
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.

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Relationship Coaching 2018-01-14T13:08:06+00:00

How do you feel about the emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship? 

Are you and your partner doing the demand/withdraw dance? Does one of you want connection and the other want space?

Are you emotionally drained or not sleeping well because of  your relationship?

Would you like to understand yourself and your partner better? 

Would you like to have the tools necessary for the most vibrant, healthy and loving relationship possible? 

Whether you work with me alone or as a couple, I can help.

Seven years of writing and guiding on space2live, extensive research for my book, The Quiet Rise of Introverts: 8 Practices for Living and Loving in a Noisy Worldtraining as a family mediator and certification as a Myers-Briggs  practitioner, have all given me the experience to offer you assistance, encouragement and suggestions.

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Seasoned love

Long-time couples often forget what it’s like to share a secret smile across the room. They forget what talking for hours then making love feels like. I love helping couples see each other differently. I would like very much to help you bring affection and ease back to your relationship.

Yes, it can be done even with dual careers, child rearing and hectic schedules.

New Relationships

Have you been dating for a while, but are not sure how or if you should take it to the next level? Are there  things you struggle with when communicating with your partner? I would love to help you gain clarity within your relationship. I enjoy helping couples learn about each other using neutral language and positive encouragement. I have the tools to help you see your partner in a different light.

What I offer is:

Connection/attachment coaching

Awareness coaching

The beginning of an exploration of each other and your relationship 

A chance to get your relationship on track to mutual growth

I understand the need for each person to maintain personal integrity. I believe this can be done in the context of a loving relationship.

I uncover understanding while helping to create a new wave of intimacy for each couple. I will guide you to a deeper connection with your partner by increasing emotional safety within the relationship. The relationship and the future of both individuals are the focus. Emotional and physical intimacy are the gifts that arise from the newfound awareness.

When the love is gone

I believe in people and relationships and their infinite potential, but sometimes their is no reconciling a love that is lost. If individuals within a relationship cannot be their true selves, do not have each other’s backs or are not willing to learn and grow together then it is better to end a relationship and go forward on their own.

As difficult as this process of dissolution is, there are ways to make the transition easier. I can guide you through the actual breakup or divorce process by helping you pick up the pieces emotionally, create a healthy parenting plan, gain clarity and move on once the dust has settled. I believe people and families can evolve post-divorce or breakup.

Session Options

Hourly and Ongoing: One hour private sessions with me via video chat or phone call* during which I listen and offer perspective and suggestions regarding your current relationship on an ongoing basis. Your personality types will be assessed. I will offer insight into your personality types, affirmations regarding both of your natures, reflections to help you process your thoughts and action steps to move you forward.

$100/hour for an individual/$150/hour for couples

Snapshot Sessions: Two one-hour private sessions with me via video chat or phone* during which I offer my perspective and suggest action steps for resolution regarding your relationship. This is a brief analysis offering insight into your personality type(s), affirmation regarding your nature(s), and action steps to foster your potential. This is an affordable, clarity-providing session most helpful to those not interested or able to participate in long-term guidance.

$225/for an individual $275/for a couple

Relationship Dissolution Guidance: Ongoing one to two hour sessions via Skype, phone call or in person (if in Minneapolis area). Sessions include coaching to help you get through the process of ending a long-term relationship. Encouragement and suggestions to help each of you maintain your highest integrity during this difficult transition. Guidance and support regarding the steps necessary to finalize a divorce (legal, financial, parenting plans, emotional processing). I am not able to act as a legal or financial agent but have the training and experience to facilitate, lessen the conflict and increase integrity during this process.

$100/hour for an individual/$150/hour for couples

*In-person sessions available to those in the Minneapolis area.

If you are ready to move forward, please fill out the form below.

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