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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo

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Alone and In Love: To Couple or Not?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:15+00:00 February 10th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Fall in love when you're ready not when you're lonely. ~ From Marc and Angel Hack Life What helped me accept the end of my marriage? Knowing I would be OK by myself.  In fact, I would be better off alone than in the relationship. I reached the point where I could cut away the safety [...]

What’s Wonderful? Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

By | 2015-10-21T12:50:32+00:00 February 3rd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Our culture made  a virtue of living only as extroverts.  We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for center.  So we lost our center and have to find it again. ~ Anais Nin Could we have prevented the Wall Street crash of 2008? How do introverts and extroverts work together in love? How can introverts act [...]

What's Wonderful? Henry and June

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:16+00:00 January 25th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , |

Maybe I have a thing for erotica. Maybe I love artsy-fartsy films about writers in Paris (I loved Woody Allen's Midnight in Paris too). Maybe it's because I watched  the entire movie in peace without interruptions (even rewinding and replaying dialogue I didn't catch the first time). Whatever the reason, I found Henry and June (1990) to be wonderful. [...]

Let's Not Reduce Everything to Numbers: An Antidote to the Unsatisfying Way We Account for Our Existence

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:16+00:00 January 20th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Never worry about numbers.  Help one person at a time, and always start with the person nearest you. ~ Mother Teresa One of the hardest things about divorce is seeing everything reduced to numbers.  Credit cards, bank accounts and insurance policies are quantifiable representations of an existence thrown in a pile, divvied up or shut down. [...]

Reframing Emptiness: Gaining Perspective When a Relationship Ends

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:16+00:00 January 13th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

This is it.  The last day we share a home, a closet, a bathroom and utility bills. My husband and I try to look busy as the movers load the last of his things. The men remove the protective padding from the door frames and close up the back of the truck. Jeff (husband) rushes off [...]

How a Sad Life Change Can Make You Extraordinary or Why Crying With Dan Fogelberg Is a Good Thing

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:16+00:00 January 6th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It's New Year's Eve 2011, the last time we gather to celebrate as a nuclear family. My soon to be ex-husband hangs out in the study.  The kids alternate between their  Lego creations and banal shows on the Disney Channel.  I scurry around the kitchen trying to put together a festive meal of appetizers.  I love [...]

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