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Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
Sharon
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t…
Evan H.

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Are You Someone’s Priority? Do You Need to Be?

By | 2016-04-23T08:37:27+00:00 June 29th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Priority: A thing that is regarded as more important than another. We all want to be somebody's priority. We want to be someone's first call when they return from a trip.  We want to be the one they make plans with for the weekend.  We want the most attention. I've held children and adults as they [...]

Wealthy People and Intellectuals Used to Intimidate Me

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:11+00:00 May 25th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

When I was younger I glorified wealthy people.  I thought they were smarter (how else would they get so much money?) and socially gifted.  They were superior and uncommon — exposed to better food, housing and worldly experiences.  The fact that they could afford better vacations and mingle with other wealthy people gave them such a [...]

Healing Through Community: Helping Kids and Parents Process Divorce

By | 2016-04-30T13:45:59+00:00 May 18th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

The kids are sick, the internet is down, school projects are piling up and my ex-husband is out of town for the week.  I have no family in the area and my friends have their own overloaded lives. I see no help or space to regroup in the near future. Doing it all alone puts me [...]

Seriously Distracted and Loving It

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:11+00:00 May 11th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

What if my kids don't have perfect grades, hair and manners?  What if I don't put together the perfect blog post?  What if I blow off a few things on my to-do list? What if I just let myself enjoy all the experiences and distractions that arise in my day? It's incredibly hard for me to [...]

Introverts Do It Passionately and Creatively: How It’s Possible to Love Solitude and Be Popular

By | 2017-05-05T17:58:09+00:00 April 27th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , |

"Susan Cain is a closet extrovert."  — Unknown So read the juvenile and snarky comment on introvert author and champion, Susan Cain's blog. Susan's heavy presence in the media (TED Talks, NPR, morning shows) during her book promotion (Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking) made it seem like she thrived in [...]

The Power of Poetry: Helping Us Heal, Feel and Transition

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:12+00:00 April 20th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I taped Jorge Luis Borges's poem, You Learn, to the wall above my desk. It's helping me through the married to not married transition. It whispers messages about love and endurance when I need them. Often my eyes drift to the poem and gently land on a line or stanza... So you plant your garden and decorate your [...]

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