Going Deep Makes Us Happier

Going Deep Makes Us Happier

Decades of research stemming from Csikszentmihalyi’s original ESM (experience sampling method)  experiments validate that the act of going deep orders the consciousness in a way that makes life worthwhile. — Cal Newport, “Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World” Some of you may recognize the name Csikszentmihalyi from my posts on the flow […]

Intimacy Coaching

Intimacy Coaching

When I first considered becoming a personal coach, I met with an experienced men’s coach here in Minneapolis named Craig Bloomstrand, but everyone calls him Snake. Snake told me the men he works with, often CEOs and  military veterans, come to him looking for something they feel they are missing. They have high-powered jobs, financial […]

What TV Producer Shonda Rhimes and I Have in Common: Relationship Trade-Offs

What TV Producer Shonda Rhimes and I Have in Common: Relationship Trade-Offs

I ran across TV Producer, screenwriter and author, Shonda Rhimes’ quote a few weeks ago. I instantly felt a kinship. Granted, she’s producing and writing for shows like Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder and I’m typing away at my first book and doing some personal coaching… but we both feel […]

How’s Your Self-Discipline? How’s Your Children’s? Why It Matters

How’s Your Self-Discipline? How’s Your Children’s? Why It Matters

  According to David Brooks in “The Road to Character”, we become more disciplined, considerate and loving through a thousand small acts of self-control, sharing, service, friendship and refined enjoyment. Brooks talks about making disciplined, caring choices that create entrenched positive neural pathways. The two phrases that stuck out to me in the above paragraph […]

What the Dalai Lama Taught Me About Self-Respect: Guest Post from Introvert Inspiration

What the Dalai Lama Taught Me About Self-Respect: Guest Post from Introvert Inspiration

  What the Dalai Lama taught me about self-respect Lack of self-esteem, self-respect and self- confidence are the cancers often eating introverts. The internet is full of websites and articles trying to convince us, that we are somehow “OK”. If you also lack one of these features, let’s try a different approach. I will not […]

Healing Emotional Neglect In the Age of Conditional Love

Healing Emotional Neglect In the Age of Conditional Love

Dr. Jonice Webb describes nurturance as a combination of love, care and help. Dr. Webb is the author of a book titled, “Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect”. It is about what was left out of our childhood versus what happened, and how it affects our adult relationships. I highly recommend the book. […]