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BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
Alan Hintermeister

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Introverts Do It Passionately and Creatively: How It’s Possible to Love Solitude and Be Popular

By | 2017-05-05T17:58:09+00:00 April 27th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , |

"Susan Cain is a closet extrovert."  — Unknown So read the juvenile and snarky comment on introvert author and champion, Susan Cain's blog. Susan's heavy presence in the media (TED Talks, NPR, morning shows) during her book promotion (Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking) made it seem like she thrived in [...]

The Power of Poetry: Helping Us Heal, Feel and Transition

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:12+00:00 April 20th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I taped Jorge Luis Borges's poem, You Learn, to the wall above my desk. It's helping me through the married to not married transition. It whispers messages about love and endurance when I need them. Often my eyes drift to the poem and gently land on a line or stanza... So you plant your garden and decorate your [...]

Halfway Home: Somewhere Between Building a Home and Feeling at Home

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:12+00:00 April 13th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

You strive, struggle and sacrifice to build a home.  To create a structure for your life that includes a home base.  But, do you feel at home?  Do you  breathe freely, laugh easily and love openly? Remember What It Feels Like to Be At Home? One of the places I always return to for comfort is [...]

Surviving Without Elite Status: Introducing Mindfulness To Kids Accustomed to Materialism and Competition

By | 2016-03-19T18:31:12+00:00 April 6th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I wasn't sure I was going to make it through the first three days of our vacation. My children bickered and battled for that damn elusive and short-lived nirvana —  Mom's full attention. They reminded me of drowning people climbing on each other in order to keep their head on top. They griped about having to fly [...]

More Than a Mom-Droid:Letting Children See Your Soul

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:13+00:00 March 30th, 2012|Categories: Parenting, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

It's important to me that my kids realize I am a woman with depth and not just a Mom-droid. I do my best to remind them of my humanity by weaving stories of my childhood with their present-day preoccupations. I've told them how I once lived and dreamed all on my own in Chicago. They've seen [...]

Blossom or Hibernate? In Love and Work, When Is It Right To Start Anew?

By | 2016-04-23T08:08:06+00:00 March 23rd, 2012|Categories: Introverts, Idealists and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Is it OK to blossom now?  A question I ask myself every day and a question I imagine the trees and flowers are asking themselves now. March in Minnesota is usually snow-covered and grey-ish.  But this year June temperatures showed up in bright green shorts and flip flops while our coat closets were still sporting black [...]

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